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[BazaJT]

The recent couple of threads of members buying houses and relocating[good luck to them by the way and I hope all goes well for you]set me pondering about home.
I moved over to Sc***horpe 25yrs ago this year,in that time we flitted to different parts of town 3 times-all rented,however to me this is where I live but whenever I think of or mention home I mean my native Yorkshire where one day I shall return-either upright or more than likely as a bag of ashes.So for me home is different to where I live,how do others think?Is home where you actually live or is it-like me-somewhere else?

[Bigron]

I've lived in Essex for 50 years, but HOME is still London. Once a Londoner.....

Ron.

[Varche]

"Home" to me is Yorkshire - North Riding to be precise.

I enjoy going back but the rural working hamlet we lived in 45 years ago has been sold and is now extended weekend retreats. That is the problem things change and usually for the worse.

I spent a huge chunk of my life in the East Midlands. That was a mean to an end.

I now live in Spain and to be quite honest it is my home. People talk to you in the street, people don't lock their doors or cars.  I do miss civilised stuff like proper |Internet. My ashes will be disposed of here.

[Lizzie Zoom]

After many moves throughout my life, thanks to the Royal Navy then retailing! I have learnt to treat where you actually live at that point in time as your true home.

Malta however will always be my spiritual home.

[Migv6 le Frog Fan]

For many years I still thought of Belfast as home, but that lessened a lot when my Mum died in 2000, and any remnants disappeared completely when my Dad died four years ago. I will only go back there now to visit  my one lifelong friend. Family can far cough.
I have lived within about a mile of where I live now for the last 38 years and it kind of feels like home, but not completely.
It doesn't feel like a spiritual home, but nor does anywhere else.
I'm just a wee gypsy orphan I guess. 

[Bigron]

You're a vagabond, Albs! 
The happiest place/time in my unhappy childhood was where my paternal grandparents lived, adjacent to a farm in Wraysbury, Bucks. It is now under the Wraysbury reservoir, so no chance of ever seeing it again. 
Also, where I was born in the East End has altered beyond recognition - streets demolished, landmarks gone.
My past is just that - past.

Ron.

[Mister Rog]

Born and bred in a South Wales industrial town

Went to London in late teens, not with family, alone. It wasn't easy

London for oh . . . 45 years or so, made a living, gained a wife and family

Back to Wales but NOT my home town about 4 years ago

Original home town has changed so much it's no longer " home"

London home town, even after 40 years, never felt like "home"

Where I am now is my home. Probably, my last residence. Happy. I know more people after 4 years here, than after 40 in London.

The future . .  ? I'm flexible on that, but I don't envisage moving.

[Bigron]

That is now the London experience, Mister Rog - nobody speaks to anybody. True, they may well not speak your language, but a smile is universal!
Back in my early years, post-war and when the streets were in black and white, we knew everybody in the street and all of their business (sometimes too much!), but it was very friendly and supportive.
Ah, sic transit gloria mundi.....

Ron.

[Olympia5776]

I think once you leave your birth area you leave it behind for ever. There is a sort of "myth of return " but the reallity is that it's an era not a place that you hold dear.
My home village is gone now ,swallowed up by a sea of baby poo coloured  houses filled with families of no connection to my era of living there. I have zero affiliation to it now ,and since losing my last sister last month even Scotland has very little draw .
I moved away from that village in the mid seventies and have kept moving since . I always said I'd return but now I doubt it . I've very fond memories of places I lived in Scotland and England and now Ireland but none were or are home.
However , hopefully there's at least one more move to be had so who knows ...........

[Bigron]

I think you have it exactly right, Olympia5776 - it is ERA rather than area. The time when life was simpler, long before the PC nonsense and the alien invasion.
I still love London, but wish more Londoners spoke English!

London was more effectively policed by the Krays than the police, too.

Ron.

[Viral_Jim]

For SWMBO & I, home's where you make it.

My parents moved alot when I was growing up(property development) and were both from shit holes they wouldn't return to at any price. SWMBO worked her a$$ off to get out of her home town for the same reason- it was and remains, a dive (new BBC offices notwithstanding).

I think a lot of people are tethered by the geography & expectations of their upbringing. If I hada quid for everytime one of SWMBO's family told her She was"getting above herself" I could be retired at the ripe old age of 34

As long as we're together- that's home for me

[2boxerdogs]

Born & bred in South London (Croydon) moved to Norfolk in 1987 & then to Lincolnshire in 1988 would never return to London but would love to relocate to Yorkshire at some stage.

[Mister Rog]

That is now the London experience, Mister Rog - nobody speaks to anybody. True, they may well not speak your language, but a smile is universal!
Back in my early years, post-war and when the streets were in black and white, we knew everybody in the street and all of their business (sometimes too much!), but it was very friendly and supportive.
Ah, sic transit gloria mundi.....

Ron.

Didn't know you spoke Welsh         

[BazaJT]

I don't think it's nostalgia/a longing for a bygone era/my youth in my case.The town I was born in-at the time was in the West Riding and now South Yorkshire-hasn't changed much at all[maybe a new housing estate but that's about it]would I actually return there?It would depend on circumstances of course but by choice I'd go for North Yorkshire so it's not an actual physical location that's home but simply Yorkshire.

[TheBoy]

It took me about 10yrs to call Brakkers truly my home, rather than just somewhere I lived. I think it finally came about when I revisited my childhood home of my beloved Aylesbury that I realised there was nothing left of what made that home, and, TBH, I didn't like it any more 

Trouble with Brakkers is the town is dying , commercially. Last year was a sad one, when the old, traditional DIY store closed, but the Bone Idle generation makes those any sort of shops unviable.  I'm lucky, as our road has a great community spirit.

I still consider the place I was born as home as well, not that we can get anywhere near our flat, and I can't see the UN giving that up any time soon.