@Andy B: Thanks, if worst comes to worst I'll probably look at buying the car back and keeping all the nice bits for next car.
@cam2502: Yeah, that will be the same car as you saw on ebay. I didn't expect to win it and bid quite a lot higher than I won it for. Amazingly the only part I've had to replace is the Anti-roll bar link. Everything else seems spot on. Touch wood.
@Entwood: Cheers mate. The bumper looks alright, quick drill and screw and should be ok. It's hard to tell if the drivers door is creased or not but might get away with that. Just the bump bar on the door and wing, which I don't know if they are Irmscher or standard. And the wing is totalled. The alloy had marks anyway so I might just try to clean it up myself.
The insurance know about the bodykit though and hopefully that is all ok. You never know, might be alright. I'd rather accept the minor damage and get the wing and paint repaired than have the car written off.