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Chat Area => General Discussion Area => Topic started by: Marie on 19 April 2008, 19:06:31
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if you have been busted(caught out ) would you continue to dig yourself a hole or would you cough up ( tell all)?
the reason i ask is because.........................
i have caught my hubby out be he still fails to admit the truth, and now wonders why i have a problem!!! :-/
help me out fellas please explain what i dont understand! :-*
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There used to be a saying ... "when in the naff stop digging" ... :)
However, I would caution asking for marital advice in a public forum .... who knows what answers you might get, and the reasoning behind such answers.
Also, Hubby might not take kindly to it and "dig his heels in" .. so making things worse.
At the end of the day only the two of you can sort this, and it can only be done by communicating properly with each other.
Good luck
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Depends what you caught him doing, :-/
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men dont like to admit their wrong eventually they convince themselves there right
never admit to anythink only if it makes them look good
allways right see above
even if wrong were are right as we make ourselves believe were are right
thats just men
;)
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Oh we talk more so then all my mates. but i was just askin for an insight into the blokes mind!
i mean hubby dont even think to look on here to start with...
i am open minded and dont mind what others think/ thier opinon thas partly why i asked.... to see the other point of view and not the womens tunnel vission.
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There used to be a saying ... "when in the naff stop digging" ... :)
However, I would caution asking for marital advice in a public forum .... who knows what answers you might get, and the reasoning behind such answers.
Also, Hubby might not take kindly to it and "dig his heels in" .. so making things worse.
At the end of the day only the two of you can sort this, and it can only be done by communicating properly with each other.
Good luck
As above on this one Marie....sorry :(
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marie,dont ask men that question,you wont get a straight answer from any of us,lol
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Depends what you caught him doing, :-/
well he has some pictures on the pc which he told me he recived yesterday and said i could check.......so i did!
he got them the day i went to my dads house for 2 days. NOT happy i have said about this and he keeps tellin me i am jelous and worried about nothing but am i! i would worry if he told me the truth to start with!!!
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if you have been busted(caught out ) would you continue to dig yourself a hole or would you cough up ( tell all)?
the reason i ask is because.........................
i have caught my hubby out be he still fails to admit the truth, and now wonders why i have a problem!!! :-/
help me out fellas please explain what i dont understand! :-*
Nor do I Marie! Over the years I have known many men do this, and to keep denying it must be some form of macho defence mechanism as they are naturally programmed to go on the 'wild side' every so often.
You will just have to resolve this between the two of you, which he will finally do if he really loves you.
:-*
Best of luck!
Lizzie Zoom ;)
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People do very stupid things sometimes, but when they get caught so often they still think they can get away with it by telling lies.
But as we all know it only makes the hole bigger.
Having been caught he should face the music so you can work through you problem together.
Pat
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"stop digging" is really a good advice..
my first wife loose because of digging ;D
second : theres a rule, let yours go where want if dont
come back, is not yours..
third : from time to time men want freedom and a little change ;D :-X
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...truth is deep inside of anything u see
person or shape or what ever u name it
u can see the truth in animals so easy
but can u see the truth in human??
if they dont know how they re it s so hard
if they shy or scare to say or show how they re...
all i said was what i learned over the years from people
but i feel i dont know anything about human...
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There used to be a saying ... "when in the naff stop digging" ... :)
However, I would caution asking for marital advice in a public forum .... who knows what answers you might get, and the reasoning behind such answers.
Also, Hubby might not take kindly to it and "dig his heels in" .. so making things worse.
At the end of the day only the two of you can sort this, and it can only be done by communicating properly with each other.
Good luck
As above on this one Marie....sorry :(
Its ok dazzler i undeestand im just trying to understand the blokes point of veiw. just so i relate thats all.
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and a rule : men dont like a woman superior than them..
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ok so i did the confrontation thing and got the "stop being so stupid, you have nothing to worry about" then when we talked about it later he just changed the subject.
this is the first problem i 5 years i have ever had!
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I bet he wouldnt think the same if it was revessed and you were the one with the pictures
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actually theres no complete recipe for these kind of problems..
depends on the persons and the balance point of relation..
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OK -- when a man is caught in a lie - even in a lie that was blurted out without thought -- he will find it very difficult to back down. Look at the guys on Jeremy Kyle prog and such like -- they even deny the lie detector evidence!
He will keep digging his hole ... and digging .. and digging .....
Best thing to do is try to talk calmly together ---- no accusations or ultimatums. You love each other, try to talk it through.
However ....... this woman who sent the pics ..... she is after him -- not the other way around. Even if his intentions are to remain faithful to you, his male ego will bask in the thought that women are interested in him and he will enjoy the attention. Us guys are wired that way I am afraid. Doesn't mean he will go off the rails tho !
In my experience there are three rules to a great relationship:
1) Communicate
2) Communicate
3) the wife is always right !
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ok so i did the confrontation thing and got the "stop being so stupid, you have nothing to worry about" then when we talked about it later he just changed the subject.
this is the first problem i 5 years i have ever had!
First problem you KNOW about?
May be it is a first and last fling to test the water outside of marriage.
Lizzie Zoom :(
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Little things like this can sometimes lead to more serious mistrust that never completly goes away, your hubby proberbly thinks theres no point in discussing it with you fearing a row over nothing :y
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OK -- when a man is caught in a lie - even in a lie that was blurted out without thought -- he will find it very difficult to back down. Look at the guys on Jeremy Kyle prog and such like -- they even deny the lie detector evidence!
He will keep digging his hole ... and digging .. and digging .....
Best thing to do is try to talk calmly together ---- no accusations or ultimatums. You love each other, try to talk it through.
However ....... this woman who sent the pics ..... she is after him -- not the other way around. Even if his intentions are to remain faithful to you, his male ego will bask in the thought that women are interested in him and he will enjoy the attention. Us guys are wired that way I am afraid. Doesn't mean he will go off the rails tho !
In my experience there are three rules to a great relationship:
1) Communicate
2) Communicate
3) the wife is always right !
Nail in the coffin!
i have just talked to him yet again and told him my concerns and the fact that she is far to close to home then i would like.
we have had a good chat yet still he dont admit hes been cought out.
it must be a man thing. hey oh well.....she is after him and not the other way round.
What gets me is she knows that he married yet still sends him these pics! why bl00dy birds >:( ;D
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Difficult one. I think advice given to keep this off-line is good and I'm staying out of this.
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OK -- when a man is caught in a lie - even in a lie that was blurted out without thought -- he will find it very difficult to back down. Look at the guys on Jeremy Kyle prog and such like -- they even deny the lie detector evidence!
He will keep digging his hole ... and digging .. and digging .....
Best thing to do is try to talk calmly together ---- no accusations or ultimatums. You love each other, try to talk it through.
However ....... this woman who sent the pics ..... she is after him -- not the other way around. Even if his intentions are to remain faithful to you, his male ego will bask in the thought that women are interested in him and he will enjoy the attention. Us guys are wired that way I am afraid. Doesn't mean he will go off the rails tho !
In my experience there are three rules to a great relationship:
1) Communicate
2) Communicate
3) the wife is always right !
Very true & very wise words :y :y :y :y :y
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It's a question of balance , so all the guys on the forum will be sending you some pics of themselves soon .sorted ;)
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It's a question of balance , so all the guys on the forum will be sending you some pics of themselves soon .sorted ;)
Now come on ... we don't want to give the lass nightmares !!!!
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It's a question of balance , so all the guys on the forum will be sending you some pics of themselves soon .sorted ;)
wicked you first!!! ;) ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
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It's a question of balance , so all the guys on the forum will be sending you some pics of themselves soon .sorted ;)
Now come on ... we don't want to give the lass nightmares !!!!
unless you look like the clown from IT i wont get nightamares ;D
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It's a question of balance , so all the guys on the forum will be sending you some pics of themselves soon .sorted ;)
Now come on ... we don't want to give the lass nightmares !!!!
unless you look like the clown from IT i wont get nightamares ;D
You've already seen me ????!!!! ;)
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Has he ever read your threads on here Marie???
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It's a question of balance , so all the guys on the forum will be sending you some pics of themselves soon .sorted ;)
Now come on ... we don't want to give the lass nightmares !!!!
unless you look like the clown from IT i wont get nightamares ;D
You've already seen me ????!!!! ;)
arse!!! lmfao
well fellas my party guest have arrived so ill catch you ron :-*
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How do you kill a whole circus? go for the juggler
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my tuppence worth is,he was probably gratifying his male ego ,we all have one and we all like to have it boosted by a bit of flirting etc; if there was anything more to it than that then it would become obvious after a while.he might even be enjoying the fact that he has made you jealous,he might sometimes think you pamper that omega more than him, ;)
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Has he ever read your threads on here Marie???
not unless i show him no! hes not interested. :)
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Has he ever read your threads on here Marie???
not unless i show him no! hes not interested. :)
mmm
I bet he has, if he knows how much time you spend on here...
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Enjoy your evening Marie -- chin up
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my tuppence worth is,he was probably gratifying his male ego ,we all have one and we all like to have it boosted by a bit of flirting etc; if there was anything more to it than that then it would become obvious after a while.he might even be enjoying the fact that he has made you jealous,he might sometimes think you pamper that omega more than him, ;)
Agreed...
But he needs taking out side and having a word with for getting caught with the pictures in the first place :P
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He volunteered the photos therefore he has nothing to hide.
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I am puzzled Marie.....
Did he show you these photos? or have you found them?
Are you saying he is nailing this women? or thinkin of? or are you thinkin he has? or do you have any evidence he is doing otherwise?
As I see it he maybe only talking to her like he may say he is.. is there a problem with that?
He may think you spend more time on that forum than she does with me!
Personally I would only look elsewhere if there was something wrong at home....
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I am puzzled Marie.....
Did he show you these photos? or have you found them?
Are you saying he is nailing this women? or thinkin of? or are you thinkin he has? or do you have any evidence he is doing otherwise?
As I see it he maybe only talking to her like he may say he is.. is there a problem with that?
He may think you spend more time on that forum than she does with me!
Personally I would only look elsewhere if there was something wrong at home....
HE showed them to me. so i suppose he has nothin to hide. she wants to nail him he has told me i have nothin to worry about and can see my side off it all!
its more the case of i dont trust her then him! shes too close to home for my likin. i have no snags with him chattin to her but hiding stuff annoys me. if hes open and honest i understand.
I asked him if he has a problem with me spending so much time on OOF and he said it doesnt bother him.
but now you mention it LK he started using the pc more and chatting more when i got more involved with OOF. but its not like im talkin about practicing reporducing. ;D ;D ;D
I see all your points and reckon i am doing a typical woman thing......... blowing it all outa proportion.(ill regret saying that i know it ;))
LEts see what happens later ;) ;) ;D
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HE showed them to me. so i suppose he has nothin to hide. she wants to nail him he has told me i have nothin to worry about and can see my side off it all!
No problem then :y
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I see all your points and reckon i am doing a typical woman thing......... blowing it all outa proportion.(ill regret saying that i know it ;))
LEts see what happens later ;) ;) ;D
YOU are not doing anything wrong -- you were (understandably) uncomfortable with the situation and you have talked it out ( still a few wrinkles to iron out -- but that will happen as long as the lines of communication are open).
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ooo--eeer ... me little "quote box" ain't working :'(
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you are a ] missing after 7280 ..... :)
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Cheers Entwood -- I went cross-eyed looking for that ! ::)
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Has he ever read your threads on here Marie???
not unless i show him no! hes not interested. :)
Just a thought, if he did read some of the comments on here, he might get jealous, even thought its all a bit of fun.
The main thing Marie, is to make sure you talk about it rather than allow your thoughts to run wild.
If there is anything to the issue, then you going ape about it will possibly work against you. just be cool, let him see you still love him and hopefully he will see which side his bread is buttered.
One thing, after seeing the picture of you in your 'glad rags', she can't be prettier! ;)
Keep your chin up :y
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One thing, after seeing the picture of you in your 'glad rags', she can't be prettier! ;)
Keep your chin up :y
Very true --- he's with a very attractive partner who has a career to be proud of --- and, if that isn't enough --- who can fix the car!!!!
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if you have been busted(caught out ) would you continue to dig yourself a hole or would you cough up ( tell all)?
the reason i ask is because.........................
i have caught my hubby out be he still fails to admit the truth, and now wonders why i have a problem!!! :-/
help me out fellas please explain what i dont understand! :-*
Hi Marie
I am not suggesting he is cheating on you at all, this is just my experience.
I don't think this is purely a male thing. Many years ago a partner cheated on me, when I confronted her she denied it until she was blue in the face. Then a couple of days later I managed to get real evidence and then it all came out.
So I think both sexes have the ability to deny things.
Looking back I still can't see what went wrong in our relationship, and she could never give me a even a reasonable answer for doing it.
I think if temptation is there most people will take that opportunity.
HTH
Mike
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Trying to remain impartial it could be nothing but a computer thing. If so as you probably know us blokes are no good under pressure. You're a pretty girl but when the said pretty girl asks questions we run away even if we love or fancy you while we're running, we still run.
I'm only generalizing though as i don't know either of you personally.
I honestly hope it's nothing that can't be resolved. :-/
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Thankyou all guys everyones advice and comments have helped.
i think i was reading far to much into it and we have talked and i feel better about the situation. He understands how i feel and knows that i am uncomfortable with him talkin to her as they were last night.
As my best mate nicki says " why would he not be happy with a wife that is 11yrs younger and does so much more then most women.....i.e. fixing the car and has meny skills."
What would i do without OOF and my voices of resaon ;) ;D ;D
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Best of luck. Will we still be seeing you both @ The Lakes? :y
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dont know :-/.other way round wi my x wife >:(,but im happy now ;D
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As my best mate nicki says " why would he not be happy with a wife that is 11yrs younger and does so much more then most women.....i.e. fixing the car and has meny skills."
Ferzakilly !
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As my best mate nicki says " why would he not be happy with a wife that is 11yrs younger and does so much more then most women.....i.e. fixing the car and has meny skills."
Ferzakilly !
??? what you talkin about......
all is good in the marie house today!
ironed out all the creases last night. :)
thanks again fellas :)
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As my best mate nicki says " why would he not be happy with a wife that is 11yrs younger and does so much more then most women.....i.e. fixing the car and has meny skills."
Ferzakilly !
??? what you talkin about......
all is good in the marie house today!
ironed out all the creases last night. :)
thanks again fellas :)
sounds like he meant "exactly"!
was gonna input some words myself but if all's fixed then i needn't bother :y
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Spot on Danny :y
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As my best mate nicki says " why would he not be happy with a wife that is 11yrs younger and does so much more then most women.....i.e. fixing the car and has meny skills."
Ferzakilly !
??? what you talkin about......
all is good in the marie house today!
ironed out all the creases last night. :)
thanks again fellas :)
Just hope that was "regulation" box pleats :)
Seriously, glad to hear things are sorted ... amazing what a good bit of "communication" can achieve :y :y :y
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nope i use fitted sheets at home ;D ;D ;D ;D
comms are normally very good in our house oh well dont matter its water under the bridge now! :)