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I need some advice please 1st of all i hate drugs whether it be a joint or some coke or whatever i am totally against it never used it and never want to.
Problem being my girlfriend who i love with all my heart does when she goes out with the girls or to a party, take coke and was open enough to tell me that she did. Her friends are all in that kind of circle they all do it they all got money and so on. I went to a couple of parties with her and her friends to give them all a chance and to be honest there was no bad behaviour or anything like that, but i just hated the fact that everyone there was on drugs.
My girlfriend says she does it because after a few drinks she is rotten but when she takes coke she is fine and this is true with her. Last party we where at i nearly ended up fighting with someone over arguing about drugs i put my point across and he didnt like it anyway i obviously embarresed my girlfriend and no longer will meet up with her friends.
What i need to know is in this day and age am i being to pig headed or should i stick to my beliefs and tell her to stop it or i go? Dont want it to come to this but just dropped her of now with her mates i am at home and will be pulling my hair out all night, i know she would never cheat on me or anything like that but i just know this once or twice a month taking coke at parties will always bug me. Help help help
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sorry but i`m totally against illegal drugs....lost my eldest nephew to them and almost my 3rd nephew till he saw what heroin and crack had done to his eldest brother before he died 3years ago..we buried him on x-mas eve.... :'( :'( it still hurts to this day my own opinion would be to try and help her to give em up cause they will take you over in the end... :'(
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your right they are wrong (i feel strongly about this for personal reasons) stick to your beliefs and hope that your girlfriend (with your gentle persuasion)grows out of it rather than it becoming a big problem in her life ,as it does for many people. :y
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Coke taking is more widespread than most people think, due partly to it being cheaper than a few years ago. A mate of mine got addicted & blew 30K in a year :-/
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I say this to her to not bother with it but she just comes back with its not dangerous its fine and that she is responsble and that coke is not that dangerous i am in the opinion that they are all dangerous.
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believe me,your right ,she is naive. :y
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Coke taking is more widespread than most people think, due partly to it being cheaper than a few years ago. A mate of mine got addicted & blew 30K in a year :-/
I have spoke to a couple of my friends about this and they suprised me by saying they take it now and again and that it is more common than you would think.
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Easy for me to say mate -- but I am zero tolerance on this ---- In your place I am afraid there are two choices: She cleans up her act, or I wouldn't want to know.
It's a difficult road and there are so many things that can get out of hand, one thing leading to another etc.
Do a bit of research, no good comes of a persistant coke habit
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Easy for me to say mate -- but I am zero tolerance on this ---- In your place I am afraid there are two choices: She cleans up her act, or I wouldn't want to know.
It's a difficult road and there are so many things that can get out of hand, one thing leading to another etc.
Do a bit of research, no good comes of a persistant coke habit
Am lookin on net about it now dont get me wrong she is not takin it everyday cause i wouldnt be with her if she did, just once or twice a month but thats once or twice to much for me. Just brings massive argument when i go on about it she says i am not open minded enough.
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Drug taking is a selfish activity; the user doesn`t seem to care for the consequences for themselves (and others) and especially-so for the one`s that care about them.
Coke is serious.....it`s not a "take it once in a while for fun" thing.
It`s miserable and sordid and ruins relationships, health, wealth and friendships.....for the 'fiscal and interpersonal cost' and life-consequences I cannot see a single redeeming aspect to the use of so-called 'hard drugs'.
It need not mean the end of your relationship; but surely if the partnership is to survive the drugs must surely go.
.....and there`s only one person whom is in charge of that decision!
I`d imagine peer-pressure may have a part to play in your partner`s casual Coke use; often in a group people feel pressured and later explain away their actions with salving excuses. ("It keeps me sober etc.")
Have you talked through your negative-feelings about the 'issue' with her?.....Sometimes users just can`t see the real situation and how it affects others. :'(
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I have no idea how dangerous coke is but, just as alcohol doesn't quite do it for her, one day she'll decide that coke doean't either. If she's in an environment where drugs are available it's not hard for her to get in deeper. I agree. She's naiive.
What you do about it only you can answer really. If it's driving you to spend your bank holidays apart because you can't share the same friends, circles, etc. that's not helping your relationship, and you should make sure she knows this. I hope for her sake resolving it means more to her than her habit.
Kevin
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Drug taking is a selfish activity; the user doesn`t seem to care for the consequences for themselves (and others) and especially-so for the one`s that care about them.
Coke is serious.....it`s not a "take it once in a while for fun" thing.
It`s miserable and sordid and ruins relationships, health, wealth and friendships.....for the 'fiscal and interpersonal cost' and life-consequences I cannot see a single redeeming aspect to the use of so-called 'hard drugs'.
It need not mean the end of your relationship; but surely if the partnership is to survive the drugs must surely go.
.....and there`s only one person whom is in charge of that decision!
I`d imagine peer-pressure may have a part to play in your partner`s casual Coke use; often in a group people feel pressured and later explain away their actions with salving excuses. ("It keeps me sober etc.")
Have you talked through your negative-feelings about the 'issue' with her?.....Sometimes users just can`t see the real situation and how it affects others. :'(
We can never seem to discuss it as it always ends in a big argument she has done it for the past 10 years and cannot see why i hate it but dont want to lose her its a pain in the arse to be honest i just dont know how to get it through to her.
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No question... She needs to clean up her act. If it was harmless then it wouldn't be an ILLEGAL drug. Drugs are bad, no two ways about it, and they are addictive. From what you've said she is showing the typical signs of an addict... "It's perfectly safe", "it's better than alcohol"
I hate to say it but... If she doesn't clean up her act then you will eventually end up visiting her in hospital (if you're lucky) or, worse still, on a slab. Regardless of the potential problems with OD on the drug itself, what else is it being cut with???? These things are NEVER pure...
That's my bit... Bin the drugs, with your full help and support, or bin her.
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I have no idea how dangerous coke is but, just as alcohol doesn't quite do it for her, one day she'll decide that coke doean't either. If she's in an environment where drugs are available it's not hard for her to get in deeper. I agree. She's naiive.
What you do about it only you can answer really. If it's driving you to spend your bank holidays apart because you can't share the same friends, circles, etc. that's not helping your relationship, and you should make sure she knows this. I hope for her sake resolving it means more to her than her habit.
Kevin
She kind of makes it sound like i am the one that is causing us to be apart on bank holiday, yet she said she would never ever want me to touch drugs bit hypicritical i think.
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Drug taking is a selfish activity; the user doesn`t seem to care for the consequences for themselves (and others) and especially-so for the one`s that care about them.
Coke is serious.....it`s not a "take it once in a while for fun" thing.
It`s miserable and sordid and ruins relationships, health, wealth and friendships.....for the 'fiscal and interpersonal cost' and life-consequences I cannot see a single redeeming aspect to the use of so-called 'hard drugs'.
It need not mean the end of your relationship; but surely if the partnership is to survive the drugs must surely go.
.....and there`s only one person whom is in charge of that decision!
I`d imagine peer-pressure may have a part to play in your partner`s casual Coke use; often in a group people feel pressured and later explain away their actions with salving excuses. ("It keeps me sober etc.")
Have you talked through your negative-feelings about the 'issue' with her?.....Sometimes users just can`t see the real situation and how it affects others. :'(
We can never seem to discuss it as it always ends in a big argument she has done it for the past 10 years and cannot see why i hate it but dont want to lose her its a pain in the arse to be honest i just dont know how to get it through to her.
I can remember seeing a presentation when I was at school about the results of drug taking... If only you could get hold of some of the pictures I saw you'd probably put her off for life!! I know it turned the stomach of everyone in the room, including a couple of the staff who were former armed forces personnel, and had seen the real side of war/NI first hand.
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Dont think that my profession is forming my opinion I have always felt this way:
I feel that taking hard drugs is a slippery slope and most people who start and do them regularly end up falling. That said some dont, but if this is someone you are considering buying a house, starting a family with, etc .......
......Do you want to take that risk?
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Dont think that my profession is forming my opinion I have always felt this way:
I feel that taking hard drugs is a slippery slope and most people who start and do them regularly end up falling. That said some dont, but if this is someone you are considering buying a house, starting a family with, etc .......
......Do you want to take that risk?
:y Quite! :y
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My brother who I have not had anything to do with for a long time, has been a drug addict for 24 years. The problem is, it has ruined my family, and its always the closest people that seem to get hurt. My advice is stay well away, it might be hard at the begining but its probably for the best :(
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My brother who I have not had anything to do with for a long time, has been a drug addict for 24 years. The problem is, it has ruined my family, and its always the closest people that seem to get hurt. My advice is stay well away, it might be hard at the begining but its probably for the best :(
Thats what i am thinking but cant bear to do it, What do you class as an addict anyway?
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My brother who I have not had anything to do with for a long time, has been a drug addict for 24 years. The problem is, it has ruined my family, and its always the closest people that seem to get hurt. My advice is stay well away, it might be hard at the begining but its probably for the best :(
Thats what i am thinking but cant bear to do it, What do you class as an addict anyway?
Any Coke user! :'(
Sorry to be blunt; but it`s not a come-day-go-day drug.....it`s seriously 'heavy' highly addictive stuff. :o
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It rots mucus membranes
As to stopping her - anonomous call to the Police may be worth a shot
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It rots mucus membranes
As to stopping her - anonomous call to the Police may be worth a shot
Ha! Look at all the evidence of various celebrities that has been gathered.... the most they did was a stern talking to!
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Look for pictures of Jonny Winters nose
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My brother who I have not had anything to do with for a long time, has been a drug addict for 24 years. The problem is, it has ruined my family, and its always the closest people that seem to get hurt. My advice is stay well away, it might be hard at the begining but its probably for the best :(
Thats what i am thinking but cant bear to do it, What do you class as an addict anyway?
He started off taking drugs, like your girlfriend, for a laugh and thought he could control it, before you know it he was taking things from our house to sell because he didn't earn enough to keep buying the drugs, then it progressed to house breaking, stealing cars the full monty. About 5 years ago he beat our mother because she had hidden her purse, its the first time me and him have ever had a fight, but I kicked seven shades out of him. He hasn't had a job for about 20 years and he's still sponging off my mum who's a pensioner and should be putting her feet up. I can't wait for him to overdose, I know mum will greave but she'll get over it then we can have a normal family life again. Drugs dont just ruin the takers lives, they ruin everyones around them as well.
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How do you get through to someone who thinks its fine to take coke and that it is dangerous? By the way my other half is a beautifull woman not some crack head just incase i have been painting the wrong picture ;)
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How do you get through to someone who thinks its fine to take coke and that it is dangerous? By the way my other half is a beautifull woman not some crack head just incase i have been painting the wrong picture ;)
That doesn't surprise me at all... Unfortunately it's the "in" thing, apparently... I'm glad I'm not into the latest fashions!!
Seriously... Hard and uncaring as it sounds, she will get worse and she wont stay beautiful for long. The addiction will get to her and she'll be taking it once a week, then a couple of times... Before long it'll be several times a day and she'll be stealing anything she can to pay for the habit.
Sorry if I'm blunt, but I see no point in mincing my words! :-[ :-[ :-[
Perhaps you should let her read this thread and see what other people think, as long as you accept that she'll hit the roof when she finds out you've discussed it with us. Then you can show her that you aren't the strange one with your opinions, she is! :-? :-?
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How do you get through to someone who thinks its fine to take coke and that it is dangerous? By the way my other half is a beautifull woman not some crack head just incase i have been painting the wrong picture ;)
That doesn't surprise me at all... Unfortunately it's the "in" thing, apparently... I'm glad I'm not into the latest fashions!!
Seriously... Hard and uncaring as it sounds, she will get worse and she wont stay beautiful for long. The addiction will get to her and she'll be taking it once a week, then a couple of times... Before long it'll be several times a day and she'll be stealing anything she can to pay for the habit.
Sorry if I'm blunt, but I see no point in mincing my words! :-[ :-[ :-[
Perhaps you should let her read this thread and see what other people think, as long as you accept that she'll hit the roof when she finds out you've discussed it with us. Then you can show her that you aren't the strange one with your opinions, she is! :-? :-?
To be honest i dont believe she will start stealing things to pay for a habit as she is succesfull at what she does owns a couple of houses and as i said before she has been doing coke for 10 years now and i think if it was going to get bad it would of by now ( i think ) i just want to get her to stop taking it this once or twice a month. Why is nothing simple in relationships.
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How do you get through to someone who thinks its fine to take coke and that it is dangerous? By the way my other half is a beautifull woman not some crack head just incase i have been painting the wrong picture ;)
That doesn't surprise me at all... Unfortunately it's the "in" thing, apparently... I'm glad I'm not into the latest fashions!!
Seriously... Hard and uncaring as it sounds, she will get worse and she wont stay beautiful for long. The addiction will get to her and she'll be taking it once a week, then a couple of times... Before long it'll be several times a day and she'll be stealing anything she can to pay for the habit.
Sorry if I'm blunt, but I see no point in mincing my words! :-[ :-[ :-[
Perhaps you should let her read this thread and see what other people think, as long as you accept that she'll hit the roof when she finds out you've discussed it with us. Then you can show her that you aren't the strange one with your opinions, she is! :-? :-?
To be honest i dont believe she will start stealing things to pay for a habit as she is succesfull at what she does owns a couple of houses and as i said before she has been doing coke for 10 years now and i think if it was going to get bad it would of by now ( i think ) i just want to get her to stop taking it this once or twice a month. Why is nothing simple in relationships.
To quote many a man.... "Women are a mystery" I'm afraid I think you are selling yourself short if you accept that she just does drugs because she has for years and it will be fine.
You have your morals, and you should stick to them. It's part of you and she would accept what you are saying, and at least try to stop, if she respected you.
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How do you get through to someone who thinks its fine to take coke and that it is dangerous? By the way my other half is a beautifull woman not some crack head just incase i have been painting the wrong picture ;)
That doesn't surprise me at all... Unfortunately it's the "in" thing, apparently... I'm glad I'm not into the latest fashions!!
Seriously... Hard and uncaring as it sounds, she will get worse and she wont stay beautiful for long. The addiction will get to her and she'll be taking it once a week, then a couple of times... Before long it'll be several times a day and she'll be stealing anything she can to pay for the habit.
Sorry if I'm blunt, but I see no point in mincing my words! :-[ :-[ :-[
Perhaps you should let her read this thread and see what other people think, as long as you accept that she'll hit the roof when she finds out you've discussed it with us. Then you can show her that you aren't the strange one with your opinions, she is! :-? :-?
To be honest i dont believe she will start stealing things to pay for a habit as she is succesfull at what she does owns a couple of houses and as i said before she has been doing coke for 10 years now and i think if it was going to get bad it would of by now ( i think ) i just want to get her to stop taking it this once or twice a month. Why is nothing simple in relationships.
To quote many a man.... "Women are a mystery" I'm afraid I think you are selling yourself short if you accept that she just does drugs because she has for years and it will be fine.
You have your morals, and you should stick to them. It's part of you and she would accept what you are saying, and at least try to stop, if she respected you.
And if she doesnt then wasnt to be.
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How do you get through to someone who thinks its fine to take coke and that it is dangerous? By the way my other half is a beautifull woman not some crack head just incase i have been painting the wrong picture ;)
That doesn't surprise me at all... Unfortunately it's the "in" thing, apparently... I'm glad I'm not into the latest fashions!!
Seriously... Hard and uncaring as it sounds, she will get worse and she wont stay beautiful for long. The addiction will get to her and she'll be taking it once a week, then a couple of times... Before long it'll be several times a day and she'll be stealing anything she can to pay for the habit.
Sorry if I'm blunt, but I see no point in mincing my words! :-[ :-[ :-[
Perhaps you should let her read this thread and see what other people think, as long as you accept that she'll hit the roof when she finds out you've discussed it with us. Then you can show her that you aren't the strange one with your opinions, she is! :-? :-?
To be honest i dont believe she will start stealing things to pay for a habit as she is succesfull at what she does owns a couple of houses and as i said before she has been doing coke for 10 years now and i think if it was going to get bad it would of by now ( i think ) i just want to get her to stop taking it this once or twice a month. Why is nothing simple in relationships.
To quote many a man.... "Women are a mystery" I'm afraid I think you are selling yourself short if you accept that she just does drugs because she has for years and it will be fine.
You have your morals, and you should stick to them. It's part of you and she would accept what you are saying, and at least try to stop, if she respected you.
And if she doesnt then wasnt to be.
Hard but true reality I'm afraid, IMHO anyway.
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Remember this?
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/7326226.stm
Without cocaine, she'd probably still be around today...and so would Mark Speight. :'(
Stick to your beliefs. You could be saving her life.
Good luck. :y
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Remember this?
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/london/7326226.stm
Without cocaine, she'd probably still be around today...and so would Mark Speight. :'(
Stick to your beliefs. You could be saving her life.
Good luck. :y
Am gonna need it she is stubborn to say the least.
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I'm going to stick my neck out here as everyone else seems to be purer than the driven snow. I had my first spliff @14 & through my teens & 20's tried everything barring needles, i'm too pussy for that. I spent the said years around that scene. I've smoked, snorted, dabbed, gum rubbed, chased the dragon & dropped acid, picked & taken magic m'rooms in my biker/festival days. For several years now i've been happy with a roll up & a drink, i'm 100% drug free, & happy.
I've just looked at the relative posts & no one has said they've ever taken anything. The law of averages says doubts this, but despite your lack of experience you have plenty of advice to offer.
I'm guessing people wo'nt like this post much but i've never been one to shut up!!! ;D
Use does'nt always lead to addiction but it can & i'm against it.
No offence, just wanted to add another angle. Guy.
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I'm going to stick my neck out here as everyone else seems to be purer than the driven snow. I had my first spliff @14 & through my teens & 20's tried everything barring needles, i'm too pussy for that. I spent the said years around that scene. I've smoked, snorted, dabbed, gum rubbed, chased the dragon & dropped acid, picked & taken magic m'rooms in my biker/festival days. For several years now i've been happy with a roll up & a drink, i'm 100% drug free, & happy.
I've just looked at the relative posts & no one has said they've ever taken anything. The law of averages says doubts this, but despite your lack of experience you have plenty of advice to offer.
I'm guessing people wo'nt like this post much but i've never been one to shut up!!! ;D
Use does'nt always lead to addiction but it can & i'm against it.
No offence, just wanted to add another angle. Guy.
Never taken anything illegal. Guess that makes me weird. :-[
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No mate not weird, just surprised i'm the only one with such a past! :y
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No mate not weird, just surprised i'm the only one with such a past! :y
As a past drug user yourself then do you think i am being unreasonable asking her to stop?
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No mate not weird, just surprised i'm the only one with such a past! :y
As a past drug user yourself then do you think i am being unreasonable asking her to stop?
She'll stop when or if she wants to, sadly i doubt you can tell her & your social lives will differ because of this making things difficult. I can't offer advice because i only stopped when i became tired of it but i sympathize with your situation & my thoughts are with you.
I hope for both your sakes she grows out of it while you still have your present patience. It can't be easy if you love her.
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How's about a bit of indirect persuasion? A bit daft but if you love her it's got to be worth a stab before your relationship takes a tumble. Maybe try and remove her from her circle of friends and perhaps stop her going out on a night, not physically 'stop', but give her a better option. Make her realise that you're better to be with than a load of coke heads. You two spend some quality time together, take her out for a meal, get down the pub TOGETHER. I'm sure she's her own person though, but you know her best.
Sadly it IS more common than anyone might think.
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The easiest / hardest question you should ask yourself (if you or her are serious) is...is this woman the potential mother of my children? If you say yes, then stay. If you say no, then go.
For some people recreational drugs can be a youthful mistake, for others it can be a fu**ing nightmare from which you / they never recover.
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The easiest / hardest question you should ask yourself (if you or her are serious) is...is this woman the potential mother of my children? If you say yes, then stay. If you say no, then go.
For some people recreational drugs can be a youthful mistake, for others it can be a fu**ing nightmare from which you / they never recover.
You've summed it up to a point. Mine was youthful but not a mistake. I enjoyed it then & would'nt want it now but it's given me an insight that only experience can.
Although i came through it ok & like all of us work hard, pay mortgage/bills ec. i know many don't make it through. In that respect i consider myself lucky.
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Pinch it and flush it - they ain't going to report you for theft are they? ;D
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Pinch it and flush it - they ain't going to report you for theft are they? ;D
Well intentioned but no help at all. If it was that easy............
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so.. ahem... i guess she isn't a member of oof... you might want to clear your cache ;)
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I'm sorry to say you can't help somebody with a drug habit unless they want to be helped. You can hang on and see if it's just a fad but to be honest it will probably just end up in misery.
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Thanks for all the advice guys and dames i know what i have to do just dont want to do it not slept a wink all night and she still isnt in i cant be arsed with this make myself bloody ill. :(
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One last thing you can try - lose the source.
How many dealers are there?
How many large friends do you have?
Work it out :-X
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Ok you have the drug itself, but it's what its been cut with by how many scum bags (not people) before. :-/ :-/ :-/
I personally have never taken any thing & i don't even like to take headache tablets. You only get one body & you should look after it :y
There's lots of other ways to get your highs & one's completely free 8-) 8-) 8-)
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I'm sorry to say you can't help somebody with a drug habit unless they want to be helped. You can hang on and see if it's just a fad but to be honest it will probably just end up in misery.
I think doz has summed up what everyone is trying to say........
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Just a side note: The US government spend 3 times the annual value of the heroin crop just trying to stop it entering the country. It would be 1/3 of the cost simply to buy the entire crop at street value and set fire to it each year. That is madness and still isn't working anyway.
Why buy why not napalm?
I suppose I am lucky just not being interested in drugs