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Chat Area => General Discussion Area => Topic started by: Sixstring on 09 June 2010, 22:58:14
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My little b####### stepson has found out my password for my tower PC, and has changed it so only he can use it to p#ss me off cos I won't let him go on msn messenger for hours to talk to his mates at night (when he's not on the BT phone calling them on their MOBILES for hours.....)
Even after an argment, all I got was "guess it, I guessed yours........."
Is there any way to reset it??
Been a week now!!!!!!! little swine. (14, may not make 15)
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What version of Windows are you running???
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Windows Vista Ultimate Mate, stumped now.
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My little b####### stepson has found out my password for my tower PC, and has changed it so only he can use it to p#ss me off cos I won't let him go on msn messenger for hours to talk to his mates at night (when he's not on the BT phone calling them on their MOBILES for hours.....)
Even after an argment, all I got was "guess it, I guessed yours........."
Is there any way to reset it??
Been a week now!!!!!!! little swine. (14, may not make 15)
Been there...............in the past, and with you on the rest, who would be a step parent :-X Do you have to be careful how you broach these issues with swmbo, serious question............
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Google vista pasword and there should be lots of help :y
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Here is a random one i picked after googling it
http://4sysops.com/archives/three-ways-to-reset-a-windows-vista-admin-password/
HTH
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bit hard.....I'm on a Blackberry Pearl, and the other is my only PC........
(I'm gonna mash the little sod if he gets any more smug about it, he's now saying "give me a tenner and I'll give you a clue!!" mum's staying out of it)
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Can you not log into the guest account or create another account with admin rights ?
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Trying to find a suitable cracker, but, not sure if it will help, the other option is something like a grabber, which may enable you to sort it...
Are you able to get any access or only able to gain access via another computer???
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Disconnect the internet till he tells you it then .... or beat the sh** out of him till he squeels it ;D
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try http://pcsupport.about.com/od/windowsvista/ht/vistapwdisk.htm
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Disconnect the internet till he tells you it then .... or beat the sh** out of him till he squeels it ;D
I am liking that idea very much....he's laughing about it to his mate on the phone, and I'm getting madder by the minute!!
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pm sent...
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Disconnect the internet till he tells you it then .... or beat the sh** out of him till he squeels it ;D
I was tinking of this, I was going to gather the family together and 'cut' the wire, no phone and no internet for anyone...... >:( I am ok I have a dongle ;D ;D ;D
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Disconnect the internet till he tells you it then .... or beat the sh** out of him till he squeels it ;D
I am liking that idea very much....he's laughing about it to his mate on the phone, and I'm getting madder by the minute!!
Disconnect the internet now and see how long he laughs for ... actually remove the plug for the modem and make sure he sees you doing it .... i would have had him in a headlock by now stepson or natural son .... >:( >:( >:(
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Just borrowed a laptop to download a bunch of password crackers............I'll wipe the smile off his face!!!
Kids today are so much more PC-literate than we think!!!
Thanks to all for your invaluble help in beating the teenager!!
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I am relaying this to swmbo and she is still not getting the point....... >:( I can actually feel your situation and the emotions that go with it...... :( :( :(
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Why is the phone still plugged in?
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Just borrowed a laptop to download a bunch of password crackers............I'll wipe the smile off his face!!!
Kids today are so much more PC-literate than we think!!!
Thanks to all for your invaluble help in beating the teenager!!
If you get back on your pc make sure you create your account with admin rights but use a password only you would ever guess in a million years ... then create his account WITHOUT admin rights ... then see him squirm when you can control what he does on it .... payback is a wonderfull thing ;D ;D ;D .... been here with the stepson from hell ... :y :y
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Disconnect the internet till he tells you it then .... or beat the sh** out of him till he squeels it ;D
I am liking that idea very much....he's laughing about it to his mate on the phone, and I'm getting madder by the minute!!
He denies you, you deny him his :-
sweets
pocket money
his games consoles
trips out
the list could get longer.
and when you get the password back, then keep changing it :y
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Cos I'm on call, and we have two lines......can't unplug it!
(and he won't be doing it for long, just typed in the "prevent mobiles" code......... >:( >:( >:(
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Cos I'm on call, and we have two lines......can't unplug it!
(and he won't be doing it for long, just typed in the "prevent mobiles" code......... >:( >:( >:(
has it worked????? :D :D :D
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IT CUT HIM OFF ON THE OTHER LINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :y :y :y
(Hah!!! MIKE.....1 STEPSON........1)
Now to crack the password and really cheese him off!!
(round 2)
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good one :y
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Just dangle him upside down by the scrotum ... i have a feeling it wont take long for the password to emerge .... show him who is the boss ... i have been here with a stepson who thought he was the big man ... he is 18 and i dont know what age yours is but they need to be shown who pays the bills and wears the trousers ;D
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IT CUT HIM OFF ON THE OTHER LINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :y :y :y
(Hah!!! MIKE.....1 STEPSON........1)
Now to crack the password and really cheese him off!!
(round 2)
RESULT :y :y :y Ok so what did you put into the phone to stop mobiles..... :D
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OK. had the "f###Y##" bit now cos he can't call his GF back, and am burning a reset disc for startup as we speak.
.......Its only a matter of time, boy.............
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When you do get in set up 3 accounts;
1 Admin with a strong password.
2 User account for yourself use this when you use the comp.
3 User account for the lad locked down as much as you like.
If he guesses your password the most he can do is change the password for that account. To which you just login to the admin account and reset it.
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this is going to be good, keep us informed. :)
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Just dangle him upside down by the scrotum ... i have a feeling it wont take long for the password to emerge .... show him who is the boss ... i have been here with a stepson who thought he was the big man ... he is 18 and i dont know what age yours is but they need to be shown who pays the bills and wears the trousers ;D
I have had 3 of the buggers, the youngest was 18 on saturday, and the one running up the phone bill, but a canny lad really, the middle one is a lazy arsed good for nothing etc etc etc oh and unemployed with huge attitude but seems I am not allowed to suggest he moves out :-X
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What is the code to stop calls to mobiles only, pleaaaasssseeeeeeee..... :y
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Vamps my boy.......
you need to phone BT customer services and set up call barring service (£1.50 per month) and then type *347#pin code in your phone keypad to activate this feature.
will allow all local and national calls, but no 05,06,07,09,or 00 numbers, so no sex chatlines or similar, no mobile numbers, and no international calls.
Simples!!
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Vamps my boy.......
you need to phone BT customer services and set up call barring service (£1.50 per month) and then type *347#pin code in your phone keypad to activate this feature.
will allow all local and national calls, but no 05,06,07,09,or 00 numbers, so no sex chatlines or similar, no mobile numbers, and no international calls.
Simples!!
Yep, but what phone number did you ring, as per my other post.........
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unemployed with huge attitude but seems I am not allowed to suggest he moves out
Yep my stepson has just turned 18 three weeks ago and thinks its great he gets to sign on and gets money for nothing ... smug as f*** >:( >:( >:(.... he has the attitude from hell with his mother but doesnt dare with me ... I said ok so now your getting money you can pay your way instead of being like a sponge and sooking in all you can get ... if you want to stay here ( as he mostly stays at his gf's ) then you WILL pay your way ...I told him 2/3rd's of my pay goes to the house so 2/3rd's of your dole goes to the house .... that soon wiped the smug look of his cocky face ;D ;D ::) ... some people might think thats harsh but you have to stand your ground .... oh and by the way we dont actually plan to take 2/3rd's of his dole but he doesnt know that :y
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Vamps my boy.......
you need to phone BT customer services and set up call barring service (£1.50 per month) and then type *347#pin code in your phone keypad to activate this feature.
will allow all local and national calls, but no 05,06,07,09,or 00 numbers, so no sex chatlines or similar, no mobile numbers, and no international calls.
Simples!!
Yep, but what phone number did you ring, as per my other post.........
i set mine up on-line. depends if you have on-line account though i suppose ::)
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Did mine though BT customer services on-line with my account number from my BT bill.
You need to have your BT bill handy and fill in the spaces when it comes up with tel no, address, account no, and postcode.
Otherwise, its an 0800 number via 118118.
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unemployed with huge attitude but seems I am not allowed to suggest he moves out
Yep my stepson has just turned 18 three weeks ago and thinks its great he gets to sign on and gets money for nothing ... smug as f*** >:( >:( >:(.... he has the attitude from hell with his mother but doesnt dare with me ... I said ok so now your getting money you can pay your way instead of being like a sponge and sooking in all you can get ... if you want to stay here ( as he mostly stays at his gf's ) then you WILL pay your way ...I told him 2/3rd's of my pay goes to the house so 2/3rd's of your dole goes to the house .... that soon wiped the smug look of his cocky face ;D ;D ::) ... some people might think thats harsh but you have to stand your ground .... oh and by the way we dont actually plan to take 2/3rd's of his dole but he doesnt know that :y
We get £20 per week, my argument with swmbo is why can he go out drinking and smoking regularly when I can not afford to do that........... >:(
He is nearly 20 and has lost loads of jobs cos he can't be arsed to get out of bed..... >:(
Spoke with my parents on Friday as youngest is 18 on the Saturday so therefore i have done what I agreed to do; not fall out while they are kids, so think may be it is time to give it all up...............
Miss Vamps comes with me........
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Did mine though BT customer services on-line with my account number from my BT bill.
You need to have your BT bill handy and fill in the spaces when it comes up with tel no, address, account no, and postcode.
Otherwise, its an 0800 number via 118118.
Did that today and just had to press button after button no real people, will try again tomorrow..... :)
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unemployed with huge attitude but seems I am not allowed to suggest he moves out
Yep my stepson has just turned 18 three weeks ago and thinks its great he gets to sign on and gets money for nothing ... smug as f*** >:( >:( >:(.... he has the attitude from hell with his mother but doesnt dare with me ... I said ok so now your getting money you can pay your way instead of being like a sponge and sooking in all you can get ... if you want to stay here ( as he mostly stays at his gf's ) then you WILL pay your way ...I told him 2/3rd's of my pay goes to the house so 2/3rd's of your dole goes to the house .... that soon wiped the smug look of his cocky face ;D ;D ::) ... some people might think thats harsh but you have to stand your ground .... oh and by the way we dont actually plan to take 2/3rd's of his dole but he doesnt know that :y
We get £20 per week, my argument with swmbo is why can he go out drinking and smoking regularly when I can not afford to do that........... >:(
He is nearly 20 and has lost loads of jobs cos he can't be arsed to get out of bed..... >:(
Spoke with my parents on Friday as youngest is 18 on the Saturday so therefore i have done what I agreed to do; not fall out while they are kids, so think may be it is time to give it all up...............
Miss Vamps comes with me........
Im glad you feel my pain ;D ;D
When he does bother to turn up or phone here ( which thankfully is getting less and less ;D ) he is normally pissed and i say exactly the same to her ie.. I wish i could afford to get pissed every night >:( >:( ... mind you two pints and he is anyones . I just hope he keeps in with " the burd" as he calls her so that she can put up with his pi** :y :y
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Tried three password cracks now, none of them work :'(
now trying this:
f8 on startup (safe mode)
at command prompt, enter "explorer"
into windows shell
control panel
user accounts
manage user accounts
right click administrator
reset password
Can't do it tonight, its upstairs in the bedroom, and its late. Will post tomorrow if it works, though............
(can't wait to wipe the smile off his face, he's gone to sleep now, and STILL won't reveal the password, says he's "forgotten it"..........we'll see!) >:( >:( >:(
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I wouldnt let him sleep till he squeels ..... chinese water torture works well i belive ..... you sleep when you give password >:( >:(
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Vamps....
Been there before, mate. Tell swmbo she is either for you or against you, which side does she stand on. If its time to go it will be obvious then. So sorry to hear that once again, kids can force a good man out.
Not stereotyping.....there are some really understanding loyal sensible women out there, just havent had a relationship with any yet.
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unemployed with huge attitude but seems I am not allowed to suggest he moves out
Yep my stepson has just turned 18 three weeks ago and thinks its great he gets to sign on and gets money for nothing ... smug as f*** >:( >:( >:(.... he has the attitude from hell with his mother but doesnt dare with me ... I said ok so now your getting money you can pay your way instead of being like a sponge and sooking in all you can get ... if you want to stay here ( as he mostly stays at his gf's ) then you WILL pay your way ...I told him 2/3rd's of my pay goes to the house so 2/3rd's of your dole goes to the house .... that soon wiped the smug look of his cocky face ;D ;D ::) ... some people might think thats harsh but you have to stand your ground .... oh and by the way we dont actually plan to take 2/3rd's of his dole but he doesnt know that :y
We get £20 per week, my argument with swmbo is why can he go out drinking and smoking regularly when I can not afford to do that........... >:(
He is nearly 20 and has lost loads of jobs cos he can't be arsed to get out of bed..... >:(
Spoke with my parents on Friday as youngest is 18 on the Saturday so therefore i have done what I agreed to do; not fall out while they are kids, so think may be it is time to give it all up...............
Miss Vamps comes with me........
Im glad you feel my pain ;D ;D
When he does bother to turn up or phone here ( which thankfully is getting less and less ;D ) he is normally pissed and i say exactly the same to her ie.. I wish i could afford to get pissed every night >:( >:( ... mind you two pints and he is anyone's . I just hope he keeps in with " the burd" as he calls her so that she can put up with his pi** :y :y
His girlfriend seems to be having a positive effect, mind the conversations they have suggest he is a prime candidate to be guilty of domestic violence..... >:( >:( >:(
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IT CUT HIM OFF ON THE OTHER LINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :y :y :y
(Hah!!! MIKE.....1 STEPSON........1)
Now to crack the password and really cheese him off!!
(round 2)
How old is he.
Plug a keylogger into a usb port with the program on a usb pen.
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I must be a monster but if you say he is 14 then you need to stand your ground now or he will take the pis* out of you when he gets older .... i know its a really difficult position when they arnt " yours " but no way would him do that to me .... you sleep when i get password you little shi* ... you want to play games then i can play games too but i guarentee you will loose .... ;D ;D
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IT CUT HIM OFF ON THE OTHER LINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :y :y :y
(Hah!!! MIKE.....1 STEPSON........1)
Now to crack the password and really cheese him off!!
(round 2)
How old is he.
Plug a keylogger into a usb port with the program on a usb pen.
Yup nice ... i doff my hat to you sir ... never thought about a keylogger ... normally try to get rid of them ;D :y
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Tried three password cracks now, none of them work :'(
now trying this:
f8 on startup (safe mode)
at command prompt, enter "explorer"
into windows shell
control panel
user accounts
manage user accounts
right click administrator
reset password
Can't do it tonight, its upstairs in the bedroom, and its late. Will post tomorrow if it works, though............
(can't wait to wipe the smile off his face, he's gone to sleep now, and STILL won't reveal the password, says he's "forgotten it"..........we'll see!) >:( >:( >:(
Is there anything important on the PC, if not, flatten it and reinstall.
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He is 14 going on 21..............
has the attitude "I'll do what I want when/if I want and no-one will tell me what to do, the world can kiss my ass"
Won't go to school quite often, and swears at his mum, steals from the local big stores, smokes, drinks, and tries weed, been riding a pitbike two-up on the public road without helmets, lies, and is generally insulting/rude.
Free to a good any home .
Next stop, social services, tomorrow.
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Just remove the power lead ... 14 yr olds need a pc long before us old foggies ... he will crack soon enough with out msn , bebo , facebook etc .... can you do all you need on the blackberry ... do you need the pc ? he will squeel soon enough
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Just remove the power lead ... 14 yr olds need a pc long before us old foggies ... he will crack soon enough with out msn , bebo , facebook etc
Just make sure you lock it in the same cupboard as his xbox/mobile phone/bedroom tv etc etc.
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He is 14 going on 21..............
has the attitude "I'll do what I want when/if I want and no-one will tell me what to do, the world can kiss my ass"
Won't go to school quite often, and swears at his mum, steals from the local big stores, smokes, drinks, and tries weed, been riding a pitbike two-up on the public road without helmets, lies, and is generally insulting/rude.
Free to a good any home .
Next stop, social services, tomorrow.
Sounds like priviledges need removing.
If my sister gets anys agro from her 2, it's simple, the mains leads from the consoles used to disapear, then other privelidges followed suit. ::)
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Just a thought, can you log into the BIOS and password it so the PC wont boot untill the hard drive settings have been restored. [smiley=2vrolijk_08.gif] [smiley=2vrolijk_08.gif] :y
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kiss my ass
Kiss my ass and you can have the pc again ... if not go and scrounge it of someone else >:(
Thats what i would say if thats his attitude :y
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He is 14 going on 21..............
has the attitude "I'll do what I want when/if I want and no-one will tell me what to do, the world can kiss my ass"
Won't go to school quite often, and swears at his mum, steals from the local big stores, smokes, drinks, and tries weed, been riding a pitbike two-up on the public road without helmets, lies, and is generally insulting/rude.
Free to a good any home .
Next stop, social services, tomorrow.
Dont go causing trouble for yourselves, but would be interesting to see how he deals with the truancy police when you ring them. :y
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Just now, I could have very nasty thoughts...............
(young offenders institute, borstal,army, prison,etc)
Jst seems nothing works, he seems to think he has a divine right to do EXACTLY as he likes! take his house keys away, he breaks in, stop his privilidges, he kicks off, and mum gives them back because of the stink he kicks up, he's recently threatened her with a carving knife but Police won't do anything YET, cos its a domestic incident.....can't win.
he just smiles at me and says....."I said you can't tell me what to do, I can do anything I want. even mum is afraid of me, so F########!!"
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He is 14 going on 21..............
has the attitude "I'll do what I want when/if I want and no-one will tell me what to do, the world can kiss my ass"
Won't go to school quite often, and swears at his mum, steals from the local big stores, smokes, drinks, and tries weed, been riding a pitbike two-up on the public road without helmets, lies, and is generally insulting/rude.
Free to a good any home .
Next stop, social services, tomorrow.
Sounds like priviledges need removing.
If my sister gets anys agro from her 2, it's simple, the mains leads from the consoles used to disapear, then other privelidges followed suit. ::)
Yeah im with you on this one .... play ball and here is a treat :y :y
Pis* me off and you can forget it ...
Sounds like he needs to earn some respect for you :-/
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Just now, I could have very nasty thoughts...............
(young offenders institute, borstal,army, prison,etc)
Jst seems nothing works, he seems to think he has a divine right to do EXACTLY as he likes! take his house keys away, he breaks in, stop his privilidges, he kicks off, and mum gives them back because of the stink he kicks up, he's recently threatened her with a carving knife but Police won't do anything YET, cos its a domestic incident.....can't win.
he just smiles at me and says....."I said you can't tell me what to do, I can do anything I want. even mum is afraid of me, so F########!!"
and this country is now geared up that he probably has more rights as a child than you do as parent/gaurdian to keep him inline.
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I swear I have neverlaid a finger on him, not shouted either, let mum do the disciplining cos its her child, always helped him, supported him, nice birthday/xmas presents, etc and been the decent bloke as far as I can. never tried to be his dad, he already has one. Just tried to be nice and a friend when he needed one.
Perhaps I should have been nasty, violent, and rude, might have got more respect.......?
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Sounds like this "big man" needs teaching a bit of a lesson .... also from what i have read on here his mother should take the blame for most of it ... however not knowing all the facts i dont want to go down that road :-/ :-/
All i would know is how i would make sure he would never treat me like a door mat and if its my pc i would rather bin it and smash it than let him near it again ... :-/
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They push the boundaries, but deep down they need to know where the boundaries are. They arent yet mature/secure enough to set their own boundaries.He needs to be shown exacly where they are imo.
Not being a smartarse,just the voice of bitter experience and hopefully learnt something from my own mistakes. ;)
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He is 14 going on 21..............
has the attitude "I'll do what I want when/if I want and no-one will tell me what to do, the world can kiss my ass"
Won't go to school quite often, and swears at his mum, steals from the local big stores, smokes, drinks, and tries weed, been riding a pitbike two-up on the public road without helmets, lies, and is generally insulting/rude.
Free to a good any home .
Next stop, social services, tomorrow.
Sounds like priviledges need removing.
If my sister gets anys agro from her 2, it's simple, the mains leads from the consoles used to disapear, then other privelidges followed suit. ::)
Yeah im with you on this one .... play ball and here is a treat :y :y
Pis* me off and you can forget it ...
Sounds like he needs to earn some respect for you :-/
I lived with a lass years ago and took on her 2 as my own, they were 3 and 6, just going on 4 and 7. Girl was fine and took to me ok, he was ok but got bullied at school, helped him through that and supported him but he got in with the wrong crowd and had lots of trouble at school, I moved on a while later but have stayed in touch even though she has married. But the lad got worse and the ex's husband is useless, laddo had issues in the end and constantly took it out on his Mum (who stodd by him regardless of how much she hated him at times) he left home in the end, ended up in a rough relationship and had 2 boys himself.
They have now split and he took the boys, we all helped him where we can and is now a completely different person, still took time regards his mum, but now buys har cards and flowers when it matters and has finally realised what a baskit he really was.
But we allways knew he had the makings of a good un deep down, sadly it took a long time to find him.
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This "big man" is 4ft 10, petite, blond, with a permanently fixed on baseball cap, about 6 stone wet, with a mouth bigger than the tyne mouth or severn estuary, and knows swear words I wouldn't even use in male company even now.
He smokes, drinks, takes weed, and doesn't care about anything.BUT......I have been told that he has rights, so if I touch him, restrain him, or swear at him, I CAN BE ARRESTED if he feels he is "intimidated" or "at risk of violence" from me. they have given him an 0800 free anytime number to ring................The police have advised me to let his mother deal with him and keep away.
These kids have more rights than me in my own house!!
BTW his mum does everything she can but she is only 5ft and 7 stone, and she is afraid of what he may do to her next.....will defend her actions, I can see what she has to deal with when I'm at work all day.
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I have been relaying this thread to swmbo in the hope that she realises that is is not just me, it is any step parent and to be hones could be any parent just the frustrations are greater as a step parent. swmbo actually felt that putting a password on the PC as a bit of a 'wind up' and fun............I put her right, cut the wire.................... >:(
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They push the boundaries, but deep down they need to know where the boundaries are. They arent yet mature/secure enough to set their own boundaries.He needs to be shown exacly where they are imo.
Not being a smartarse,just the voice of bitter experience and hopefully learnt something from my own mistakes. ;)
I know exactly what you are saying ... and thats what i have been getting at all along .... this little shi* here will take the pis* out of his mother but wont dare with me ... stand up and pull your trousers up and tell him how it is :y
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Being a step-parent is the HARDEST thing.........you have to step aside and let the real parent tell the child off and show the way, but try not to interfere with it, HOWEVER you must show the child you care, but will not be treated like a doormat too, without losing face or respect from the child.
it is so hard sometimes to walk away, when if it was your own child you would do things this way..............my own kids are grown up with their own kids now, and you must not get drawn into the "your kids-my kids" trap.
Also, your partner, their parent must understand your position and stand by you too.
Only my opinion..........
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I think your in for a lot of trouble unless you state your boundries and stick solidly to them or this child is going to rule your lives .... lines have to be drawn and stuck to .... you cant be a doormat to a 14 yr old ffs .... >:( >:( >:(
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you have to step aside and let the real parent tell the child off and show the way
Says who ?????
He is 14-15 ...almost an adult
You live together as a family so YOU have as much right to say whats acceptable in your house as anyone else ...
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They push the boundaries, but deep down they need to know where the boundaries are. They arent yet mature/secure enough to set their own boundaries.He needs to be shown exacly where they are imo.Not being a smartarse,just the voice of bitter experience and hopefully learnt something from my own mistakes. ;)
I know exactly what you are saying ... and thats what i have been getting at all along .... this little shi* here will take the pis* out of his mother but wont dare with me ... stand up and pull your trousers up and tell him how it is :y
Straight out of a text book.... ::) ::) but valid... interesting thread, and I have brought swmbo into it but bed time is a must, will be interesting to pick this up again, as no one knows what it is like to be a step parent and I am at the point of breaking up because of it, but then I have Miss Vamps and I do love swmob.......back tomorow.... :y
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They push the boundaries, but deep down they need to know where the boundaries are. They arent yet mature/secure enough to set their own boundaries.He needs to be shown exacly where they are imo.Not being a smartarse,just the voice of bitter experience and hopefully learnt something from my own mistakes. ;)
I know exactly what you are saying ... and thats what i have been getting at all along .... this little shi* here will take the pis* out of his mother but wont dare with me ... stand up and pull your trousers up and tell him how it is :y
Straight out of a text book.... ::) ::) but valid... interesting thread, and I have brought swmbo into it but bed time is a must, will be interesting to pick this up again, as no one knows what it is like to be a step parent and I am at the point of breaking up because of it, but then I have Miss Vamps and I do love swmob.......back tomorow.... :y
You and me both mate .... i have enough problems without her fuc*** up son .... wish i was single again :'(
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There are no "how-to" guides for being a good parent-guaranteed or your money back.........(pity)
BUT...
I always thought that love, trust, respect and a little understanding cured all wayward children eventually.
Seems I was soooooo wrong, all that has happened is that society has given them the tools to dominate their parents and rule society from a younger age than ever before.
When I was a kid, a good slap never did me any harm, but all that happens today, is the child screams "child abuse" and the PARENT gets arrested and charged while the child laughs at them, waving two fingers.... :-/
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'Night fellers, thanks for the support tonight, we'll see how he is tomorrow. :y :y :y :y
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I feel so lucky, I have such a fantastic step-son... He is polite, friendly and genarally a decent bloke... He was 17 when I first met him so a little bit older..
The way you and your wife are treated by him is horrendous and I genuinely feel for you... Sadly there are/have been so many "do gooders" about for so long who have gradually chipped away at parent rights and granted "children" (or suitable alternative) with such extensive rights. I think that if I was in your shoes right now, I would be talking with social service to gain assistance (mostly due to the school thing as the parent again is sadly to blame if your children fail to go to school and can/have been sent to prison)... To be proud of having parents scared of you is shocking and it really sounds like you and yours need some external support and assistance...
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Pity these kids cant be sent for a dose of bad lads army, after seing the series on TV I think any kid that gets wayward or gets a criminal record ought to be joined up. Saw some excellent results on the series, they pulled them apart mentally and built them back up.
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I typed a long reply to this a couple of hours ago but decided it shouldn't be posted. Not because it was unsuitable and full of bad language but because I felt it was a little more detail than was required! I'll have another try...
I really feel for you. I have no children/step children of my own but do have a kid brother who is 16 years younger than me and I am the only father figure he has even known. My mum has constant battles with him over practically anything and I frequently have to lay down the law as he'll listen to me! I have been known to do the 530 odd mile round trip in a day when he's really playing up.
All I can say is that you and your good lady need to stand together and sing from the same hymn sheet, otherwise this will continue. I would give the same advice to any couple/child problems as any weakness can and will be used to gain an advantage... I know, I was a child once and could be a right PITA, although by the sounds of it I was an angel in comparison!
I have (finally) got my mother on side with me when I deal with my kid brother and she will allow me to lay down the law to him and, more to the point, she'll stick to what I say. It has improved him... I still wouldn't say he's particularly well behaved but he's not as bad as he was. She even managed to make a threat which I'd told him about without getting prompted this last weekend when he was threatening to lounge about doing nothing instead of going back to college for another year or getting a job. It seems to have worked...
So, I'm trying to say that I sympathise with the situation and that it's not just step parents who get a hard time... It can be siblings too if the situation arises. Be firm and, most importantly, get the other half to show support for you :y
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Pity these kids cant be sent for a dose of bad lads army, after seing the series on TV I think any kid that gets wayward or gets a criminal record ought to be joined up. Saw some excellent results on the series, they pulled them apart mentally and built them back up.
I went to a forces boarding school (for 7 years) aged 11 and it was, then, run to a very strict regime and was similar to Bad Lads Army in some respects... Didn't do me any harm. In fact, it's made me who I am today.
I'm starting to believe that National Service should be re-introduced... Perhaps, if you leave education before 21 you should be conscripted to National Service... Just a thought :-/
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Pity these kids cant be sent for a dose of bad lads army, after seing the series on TV I think any kid that gets wayward or gets a criminal record ought to be joined up. Saw some excellent results on the series, they pulled them apart mentally and built them back up.
I went to a forces boarding school (for 7 years) aged 11 and it was, then, run to a very strict regime and was similar to Bad Lads Army in some respects... Didn't do me any harm. In fact, it's made me who I am today.
I'm starting to believe that National Service should be re-introduced... Perhaps, if you leave education before 21 you should be conscripted to National Service... Just a thought :-/
My Dad passed away when my little brother was hust 13/14 and he was at that age where he was pushing Mum and Dad to see how far he could get, well he went off the rails and stopped going to school, he was already smoking and drinking (had allready had his stomach pumped after nicking and downing a bottle of southern comfort) When he reached 16 he actually surprised by saying he was seriously thinking of joining the army to straighten himself out, but managed to get a job and attend colledge, allthough he has turned out ok in the long run, I think he still feels a dose of army diciplene would have been better for him.
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Sixstring, I have some very simple to use software that will allow you to regain control over your PC and remove any passwords on any accounts :y
Give me a PM dude.