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Title: Hello All
Post by: Dusty on 04 October 2010, 14:48:09
Hi, all

I've not posted for some time, as I've been having    a few problems with my 79 year old mother.

She has recently been diagnosed with alzheimer's. This is no surprise to me, as her behaviour has been very bizarre of late. She tends to have problems with time, she is unaware who is alive and who is dead. (She thinks her own parents are still alive, even though they have been dead some 25 years.)

She cannot be left alone, especially in the kitchen, and must be kept clear of hot water and the cooker.

She has also taken to aimless wandering. We have had to call the police  to fetch her back on more than one occasion.

She is, essentially, in most ways a small child again.

Sadly, last week I got a phone call from my father informing me that she'd had a stroke. So Mr. Dusty and I drove 100 miles to see her in hospital. Unfortunately, she didn't recognise me.

I have to accept that she is unlikely to make a full recovery, and what little time she has left, we'll try and make  as comfortable as possible for her

Right then, with that off my chest I hope you boys are all well, and having a great time here at the OOF. Best wishes Dusty.  :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Nickbat on 04 October 2010, 14:51:02
Tough times for you, Dusty. I am sorry to hear about your mum. :( :'(

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Welcome back, though!! :y :y :y :y
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Sixstring on 04 October 2010, 14:51:12
I'm so sorry.....
Have a favourite aunty Nancy with the same thing, sometimes she recognises me, sometimes she asks "who are you?  do I know you?"   really upsets me, but I know she can't help it.

Alzheimers is such a cruel disease. :'(
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Banjax on 04 October 2010, 14:55:11
sorry to hear that - my gran had a stroke recently and her minds gone a bit - shes in her mid 90's - but not alzheimers - very difficult condition to live with i'd imagine - for everyone

all the best tho and welcome back  :y
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: PhilRich on 04 October 2010, 14:56:59
I'm really sorry for your troubles Jan, it must be a very worrying time for all of you especially your poor Dad  :(
I do hope things settle down for you all soon & your Mum has not been too badly affected physically by the Stroke. Kindest Regards, Phil. :)
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: wingman on 04 October 2010, 14:58:10
Welcome back Dusty. Sorry to learn about your Mum. I lost my Mum several years ago now. She had alzheimers for about 5 years before she died and at the end could not speak or recognise anyone she had previously known. Its a horrible disease!!
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Dishevelled Den on 04 October 2010, 15:00:24
Lovely to see you on again Dusty.

That's distressing news about your mother and I'm very sorry to hear it.

The very least we can do in these circumstances is to be there to comfort and care for those we love and I wish you all, every one, strength and fortitude to do just that - whatever the future brings.

My best wishes to you all and please convey my thoughts to your father.
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Dusty on 04 October 2010, 15:11:17
Recovery from stroke is always difficult. My mother's dementia only adds to the problem. She has lost the use of her right side, and is also unable to speak. :'( :'(



Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Gaffers on 04 October 2010, 15:18:49
Sorry to hear about the troubles you have been having, having a stepdad-in-law(?) who I am very fond of with the same problem I can only begin to comprehend your difficulties.

Btw, how did ithe book award go?  Did you win?
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: maria on 04 October 2010, 15:58:24
Sorry to  hear  about your mum Dusty :'(, I know exactly what your going through as my nana went through the same thing and she went like a baby in the end and it use to upset me every time i see her and she went like a rake and you could see all her bones and ribs, not a nice thing to go through and she she had to have around the clock care
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: jereboam on 04 October 2010, 16:30:34
Very sorry to hear about your mother - it must be very difficult to deal with. 

I had to look after my father who had quite severe senile dementia for the last couple of years of his life, although it wasn't Alzheimers, so he never developed the worst symptoms of that disease.  He lived about 120 miles away, so it really upset my home life at a time when my children were quite young.  We eventually had to bite the bullet and put him into a nursing home as neither my brother or I were in a position to give him the care he needed.  It sounds uncaring, but with young families to support there comes a point where there just aren't any alternatives. :( :( :(
Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: Dusty on 04 October 2010, 16:43:12
Thanks everyone for all your kind comments. You've all been very helpful.

I feel pretty calm about the whole situation. It is a calmness born out of acceptance.

PS Guffer. Thanks for your interest about the book award. I did win. No prizes but a nice button to add to my website.
(http://www.janbowles.com/images/CLASSIC%20COVER%20BUTTON%20jan.jpg)
 Dusty :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

Title: Re: Hello All
Post by: cem_devecioglu on 04 October 2010, 17:38:10
sorry to hear Dusty.. I know how is to have parent with serious illness.. :(

And congrats for your book award :y