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Chat Area => General Discussion Area => Topic started by: Martin_1962 on 08 January 2011, 23:55:36
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Do you find that you now have more friends from internet rather than normal face to face meetings.
I have a few friends left from when I was young but never see them, the rest of my friends appear to be all off OOF and PSN.
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Do you want one more? :D
jordan_mcg
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Yes & no. I still have a few friends from my youth, then again have re connected with a few through facebook i might not have otherwise & we have met up after many years.
I've also made friends through OOF that i see in person at meets & some whose houses we visit socially or they visit me which has nothng to do with OOF simply arranged over the phone. :y
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I am not going to go all deep etc but it depends what you mean by friends. The world is a very different place, communication is at a level never imagined when I was young. We have friends, I still have friends from when I was young, I know a lot of people, many who were Cub Scouts or Scouts when I was a leader. 1 of whom is now a relative courtesy of No1 stepson and another may be courtesy of Master Vamps, tis a small world.... ;D
I have had people contact me from the past, some I do not want to know, others it was nice to hear from..
I do very little MSN and just a touch of facebook so OOF is my main contact for people on the net, some I have met and would be proud to call them friends, others I have not met but feel that a friendship has developed....as I said, a very different world... :)
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That's an interesting one Martin.
I've never had ‘friends’ in the generally accepted sense of the word - a fact that doesn't bother me too much - as I was a strange child always at home in my own company.
More so because of my job I've always been viewed with suspicion by others and those who have gone out of their way to become 'friends' I've had to view with suspicion, so it's a bit of a vicious circle for some of us.
I have, and have had, close acquaintances and colleagues without whom I wouldn't have been able to do my job - and I know and have worked with people from around the world - but thinking dispassionately about it I could never call them 'friends'.
The vast majority of my interaction with others stems from a professional requirement and, as I retire later this year, I can see myself becoming a recluse. ;D ;D
In fact the OOF is the only place where I have spent a lot of time communicating with other people where no real element of my profession is required to be involved. :y
So, although I prefer to plough my own furrow I am sensible enough to seek assistance when required, and when others need help I've disadvantaged myself to help them - that's why I became a copper in the first place, to help people, something I’ve done in spades.
Finally, irrespective of what the accepted definition of a friend is, what it truly means to each of us on here, there is only one person I can call a friend - my wife - she has stood by me through very difficult times, has taken the shit many copper's wives have had to as a matter of course, kept me from losing my mind and providing some semblance of normality in a (married) lifetime of professional turmoil - all while doing a dangerous, difficult and demanding job herself.
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Do you find that you now have more friends from internet rather than normal face to face meetings.
I have a few friends left from when I was young but never see them, the rest of my friends appear to be all off OOF and PSN.
yep..only from OOF..
most of my old local friends , I nearly never see them now..sometimes I call them or send message via facebook.. but thats it..
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i have met a lot of people from chat rooms who i keep in touch but now with just a few. my mates where i live and see daily i have known for about 8 yrs now, most are on facebook. but my true mates i have known since i was about 12 yrs old, and my 2 best mates have been friends since 5 yrs old,were very close and stand by each other no matter what. i still see some from infant school ive grown up with but not as muchnow,i can go over and drink in any pub in northolt and know most people in there as its where i was born. and people i have met over the yrs through shopfitting i still keep in touch with as you can sometimes help each other out with work when needed and its nice to work with people you know you can trust and get on with. i'm very loyal to my friends and ususally drop everything to help them out if they need it. thats how friendship should be. trust and respect. :y
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from what i have gathered over the last 10 yrs through the internet you tend to get a bond between internet friends that you dont with friends on a daily basis and socialise with. i also think you tend to have a more personal relationship sometimes on the internet that you dont off it.
when i broke up with my x 10 yrs ago i started chatting to a woman who was going through the same as me. we became very very close.chatting everyday for 3yrs and only ever met 5 times. unfortunatly she collapsed and died on my birthday one year. left me totally devastated and i always have a drink for her on my birthday every year. :)
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I have a few friends who I grew up with since nursery and I still see them regularly for a drink and chat. It's nice to have close friends that you can be totally at ease with and whom you know inside out. I also see many friends from school still as I work in a supermarket in my home town. Some completely ignore you, and some greet you enthusiastically. I really hate to be ignored >:(
It's also nice to have internet friends as well though. You can see over the course of many months and many postings on forums such as this what kind of character somebody is, and it's always interesting to see what they look like. I've only met James V6 Elite so far from this forum when he helped me with my car, but he seemed like a genuinely great guy
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Most of my friends are now either from work, or the internet one way or another (largely car forums).. I haven't seen anyone I went to school with in 10+ years, and only occasionally hear a pip out of them on Facebook.
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I have a few from here others from online games I play, school, work and family.
I keep in contact with a few but find it easier in some respects through FB especially as they live a distance away
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I still keep in touch with many of the reprobate friends from my misspent youth....( those that are still alive !!!).....However....I'm not really sure if internet friends can be classed as true friends ...but I know that people here at OOF become good friends with other OOF members once they attend a meet.... :y :y :y
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What is a friend ? Many here on OOF will go to great trouble and effort to help out someone they have ( and might never) meet. They listen to each others troubles, give advice and offer support, as well as having a laugh together.
As has been already said -- 'tis a different world we live in.
Like Z, I was a strange child (grew into a strange adult) and would happily be a hermit --- indeed, upon retirement that is my plan !
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What is a friend ? Many here on OOF will go to great trouble and effort to help out someone they have ( and might never) meet. They listen to each others troubles, give advice and offer support, as well as having a laugh together.
As has been already said -- 'tis a different world we live in.
Like Z, I was a strange child (grew into a strange adult) and would happily be a hermit --- indeed, upon retirement that is my plan !
Nothing "strange" about this informed and articulate pair in my opinion. :y :y
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Depends on your definition of 'friend'
There are a few people here who would fit in to my definition of 'friend'. These would be people I have met, shared a beer and/or a meal with, even in some cases, spent a weekend or 2 with.
I could not class anyone I hadn't met as my definition of 'friend', be that via Internet, or colleagues who I only speak to via phone.
I'd say the majority of my friends (by my definition) are those I've met through work.
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes
There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again ;D ;D ;D
Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight :y :y :y
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes
There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again ;D ;D ;D
Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight :y :y :y
You are no longer my friend.
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I just view the internet / forums a 'new' way of making friends.
Certainly made some very good ones on here :y
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This is a good question.........
I have met some genuinely lovely people on this forum, that if we lived closer perhaps would become close friends even........but as we speak I probably have 3 good friends in all the world. they live in the far-flung corners of the world, and we only converse via phone and email, but if I called because I was in trouble, ill, or in difficulty, etc, ANY of them would jump on a plane and come to me. This to me defines a REAL friend.
I have been "in the firing line" several times, and had some decent blokes with me, I would cover their back, and they mine, and formed a close cameraderie with them, but when we all left, have never heard or seen them again. So what IS a real friend?
Very hard to define, but in my opinion, it must be somebody who cares, will listen to you anytime, will help you anytime, and would be sad and upset if anything happened to you.
Either way, if that IS the definition, then I have three good friends and some brilliant acquiaintences, some of which I have met on this forum and would do anything I can for if they ask me.
This of course does not include my partner Zena, whom I love and adore, and consider my soulmate and confidante.
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I moved 30 miles from where I grew up, so dont see many old schoolfriends, I keep in touch with a few in the interweb,
I seem to have 2 sets of friends now, car friends from one of the car clubs, or shooting friends,
all my drinking friends are into shooting.
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I have a very small group (2 couples and 2 singletons) whom I am proud to call 'personal-friends' and one couple I know I will be dear-friends with for life.......and then quite a few internet contacts (mainly OOF). :-*
Nobody from my youth/Uni. etc.; `left behind the need for all that, years ago! ;)
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Normal friends, you say?
I'll get back to you on that. ;)
Kevin
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes
There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again ;D ;D ;D
Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight :y :y :y
You are no longer my friend.
;D ;D ;D :D :D :D
If it makes you feel any better I'll tell you it wasn't very good... But I'd be lying! ::) ::) :D :D
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This is a good question.........
I have met some genuinely lovely people on this forum, that if we lived closer perhaps would become close friends even........but as we speak I probably have 3 good friends in all the world. they live in the far-flung corners of the world, and we only converse via phone and email, but if I called because I was in trouble, ill, or in difficulty, etc, ANY of them would jump on a plane and come to me. This to me defines a REAL friend.
I have been "in the firing line" several times, and had some decent blokes with me, I would cover their back, and they mine, and formed a close cameraderie with them, but when we all left, have never heard or seen them again. So what IS a real friend?
Very hard to define, but in my opinion, it must be somebody who cares, will listen to you anytime, will help you anytime, and would be sad and upset if anything happened to you.
Either way, if that IS the definition, then I have three good friends and some brilliant acquiaintences, some of which I have met on this forum and would do anything I can for if they ask me.
This of course does not include my partner Zena, whom I love and adore, and consider my soulmate and confidante.
I think that counts for a lot. The converse probably needs to apply as well, and that may be the clue to identifying friends - who would I go well out of my way to help?
There are a number of new-fangled ways to create relationships and most seem to fall short by some way. Strangely (and it was mentioned above) eating a meal together may well play a big part in creating good/real friendships.
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Two members have added another angle to this (for me anyway) The two that mentioned thier childhood. I am an only child. I have a step brother & two step sisters but never lived with them. We are in touch but not particularly close. I think i'm the product of being an only child all these years later in that despite having had a few relationships (two long term) & becoming a father 25 years ago I'm still simply happier on my own. I enjoy coming home to an empty house just so i can do as i please & not worry about her moaning at me for spending too much time on the computer, what i eat or when i eat it etc. I like my weekends to myself, laying in bed, tinkering with the cars, visiting friends, simply doing what i want when & if i want to do it. It's not our house, it's mine. I've never been happy with any of my ex girlfriends doing my washing, putting my socks in the drawer, silly things like that. I've never been 100% comfy with a girl sleeping overnight in my bed, because it's MY bed & I sleep there. I'm not selfish or tight with money neither am i a narcissist, i'll help anyone if i can, i don't go entirely without "Female company" & i love women i'll never go to bed with as friends i'm simply not one half of a couple, i'm just me.
Regarding true friends, i could probably count those on one hand, however there are potential friends on OOF & my Classic forum that if we lived nearer said friendships might well develop further.
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I moved to Worcester about 20 years ago, not made any real friends up here.
Well made one but I married her!
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I've found that I've met some really good friends through the web - the web is great for connecting people with similar interests who would never otherwise meet.
I also find that there's a good side-effect. I really enjoy the use of the English language, taking pleasure in selecting the exact word or phrase for the meaning I intend. Whilst this is easy to do when you're typing, pm-ing or through sms, when face-to-face, it takes me a bit longer to select the right phrase (therefore making me appear a bit "dumb")
from radio 4 - what's the correct definition of "towel rail" - where a Yorkshireman keeps his Owls.
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from radio 4 - what's the correct definition of "towel rail" - where a Yorkshireman keeps his Owls.
I love that. 8-) A fine example of the regional dialect that makes this country so diverse and interesting.
There is a rich depth and sound heritage within the regions, these qualities should be treasured and celebrated for they identify who we really are within this nation.
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have you ever thought that within 75 miles of Manchester, you could have a strong dialect which could be Brummie, scouse, Welsh, Yorkshire, Lancashire, Potteries, Derby - all completely different.
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes
There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again ;D ;D ;D
Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight :y :y :y
You are no longer my friend.
;D ;D ;D :D :D :D
If it makes you feel any better I'll tell you it wasn't very good... But I'd be lying! ::) ::) :D :D
You are now one of my enemies, Mr LD >:(
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I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.
However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night :y
And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends :y :y
You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes
There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again ;D ;D ;D
Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight :y :y :y
You are no longer my friend.
;D ;D ;D :D :D :D
If it makes you feel any better I'll tell you it wasn't very good... But I'd be lying! ::) ::) :D :D
You are now one of my enemies, Mr LD >:(
;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D ;D
Had another helping tonight too ;D ;D ;D ;D
Surely you wouldn't want it anyway, it would ruin your diet :-X :-X ::) ::)