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Title: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 26 February 2008, 15:02:13
See below - my personal opinion is, what the blo*dy heck were they doing letting a NINE year old catch a bus on her own to begin with?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/bradford/7265084.stm

Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: zippo on 26 February 2008, 15:05:44
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See below - my personal opinion is, what the blo*dy heck were they doing letting a NINE year old catch a bus on her own to begin with?

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/bradford/7265084.stm

agreed
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 26 February 2008, 15:07:40
Same as the McCanns, leaving a tiny tot alone in an appartment while they had a slap up meal!!
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: smoothomega on 26 February 2008, 15:20:42
I just do not understand what makes these people tick, it makes me so angry  >:(  The McCanns come and use the swimming pool where i work and i have often wanted to ask them what they were thinking about when they left their kids alone, not very PC though is it  :-/
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: zippo on 26 February 2008, 16:10:48
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I just do not understand what makes these people tick, it makes me so angry  >:(  The McCanns come and use the swimming pool where i work and i have often wanted to ask them what they were thinking about when they left their kids alone, not very PC though is it  :-/
tbh iam surprised that no one has given them an ear bashing and sod being politically correct
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Martin_1962 on 26 February 2008, 16:16:59
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I just do not understand what makes these people tick, it makes me so angry  >:(  The McCanns come and use the swimming pool where i work and i have often wanted to ask them what they were thinking about when they left their kids alone, not very PC though is it  :-/


Go on ask them!
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Admin on 26 February 2008, 17:39:34
While I understand what you are saying James we have to be careful here.

We know only what has been reported through the media, hardly the most objective of mediums.

We only know part of the story. Let us not condemn completely yet.
Besides, how do you think the parents must be feeling?
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Marks DTM Calib on 26 February 2008, 17:50:44
It will be interesting to see if over the course of time any action is taken against the parents who, currently, are not seeking the media spotlight in the same manner as the McCanns.....
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 26 February 2008, 20:15:03
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While I understand what you are saying James we have to be careful here.

We know only what has been reported through the media, hardly the most objective of mediums.

We only know part of the story. Let us not condemn completely yet.
Besides, how do you think the parents must be feeling?

Dave, I appreciate it's a sensative situation mate ... It just appears to me that, every case of missing children I read, seems to boil down to gross negligence...

No offense is intended to anyone, and clearly the parents will be feeling terrible....

I also agree that media coverage is not trustworthy - but regardless of speculation - the solid fact remains, that she was left to catch public transport home, on her own, at the age of nine!



Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Andy B on 26 February 2008, 20:26:06
I did once when I was younger than that. It was for a few stops going to infant school, I think my Mum was waiting for the doctor for my younger brother. The fare was 2d ..... it was that long ago  :o, a price that's tuck in my head for some reason. Thinking about it though I used to go to school for 3rd & 4th year juniors on foot with a mate from the same class, so wouldn't have been much different.
You don't know the circumstances of the travel arrangements so can't really comment. Hindsight would be fantastic for her parents.
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 26 February 2008, 20:46:23
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You don't know the circumstances of the travel arrangements

I read on the BBC the police have confirmed that her travel arrangements were using public transport alone? Whilst the media must be taken with a pinch of salt, I doubt this is wrong...

I agree what's done is done, etc.. but after SO many cases of disappering kids, abuse, etc... it just staggers me that parents would let a vunerable little girl of that age catch a bus on her own - in personal opinion, there are no circumstances that justify this!
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 26 February 2008, 20:46:59
And if (And I do mean if) this really was the case - I rekon an offense has been commited.
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: albitz on 26 February 2008, 20:55:28
hopefully the little girl will turn up scared but unharmed and then, it sounds like someone should consider a charge of neglect. if the situation  became one of those without a happy ending then i would imagine that the suffering that would bring would be all the punishment  any parent might deserve,many times over
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Entwood on 26 February 2008, 20:55:29
The trouble is .. no one is licenced, tested or even taught how to be a parent - anyone can do it.

In times past "young parents" learned the rules from their parents/grandparents etc etc, nowadays so many people either live alone, don't communicate, or think they know better.. that the basics just aren't done.

Just think what  things will be like in 10 years time when the present bunch become parents ??  All they know is computers/facebook/bebo ...they won't have a clue how to be a parent.

:(
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: zippo on 26 February 2008, 21:07:01
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The trouble is .. no one is licenced, tested or even taught how to be a parent - anyone can do it.

In times past "young parents" learned the rules from their parents/grandparents etc etc, nowadays so many people either live alone, don't communicate, or think they know better.. that the basics just aren't done.

Just think what  things will be like in 10 years time when the present bunch become parents ??  All they know is computers/facebook/bebo ...they won't have a clue how to be a parent.
:(
its happening now to some degree kids bringing up kids
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: maria on 26 February 2008, 21:33:51
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The trouble is .. no one is licenced, tested or even taught how to be a parent - anyone can do it.

In times past "young parents" learned the rules from their parents/grandparents etc etc, nowadays so many people either live alone, don't communicate, or think they know better.. that the basics just aren't done.

Just think what  things will be like in 10 years time when the present bunch become parents ??  All they know is computers/facebook/bebo ...they won't have a clue how to be a parent.
:(
its happening now to some degree kids bringing up kids


That's so true and its a shame that there parents say its OK to be one at the age of 12 or 13 and that is so wrong they don't have a bloody glue how to look after a child at that age let alone there self but most 12 yrs old are growing up to fast i think these days, I wouldn't want any of my girls being a mum at the age of 12 or 13  >:( but my older one is 18 now even though i wouldn't want her too be a mum and ruin her life
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: zippo on 26 February 2008, 21:47:46
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The trouble is .. no one is licenced, tested or even taught how to be a parent - anyone can do it.

In times past "young parents" learned the rules from their parents/grandparents etc etc, nowadays so many people either live alone, don't communicate, or think they know better.. that the basics just aren't done.

Just think what  things will be like in 10 years time when the present bunch become parents ??  All they know is computers/facebook/bebo ...they won't have a clue how to be a parent.
:(
its happening now to some degree kids bringing up kids


That's so true and its a shame that there parents say its OK to be one at the age of 12 or 13 and that is so wrong they don't have a bloody glue how to look after a child at that age let alone there self but most 12 yrs old are growing up to fast i think these days, I wouldn't want any of my girls being a mum at the age of 12 or 13  >:( but my older one is 18 now even though i wouldn't want her too be a mum and ruin her life
a friend of mine had a baby at 18 in retrospect she thinks that they both grew up together so that made their bond stronger but she admits that she missed out on a lot
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Vamps on 26 February 2008, 21:49:12
A tragic and worrying situation for the parents, regardless of level of supervision, there will be time for that later.

This is not the same as the McCann’s I know of people charged with neglect for less, they got away because of their so called ‘position’ in society. >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(

“the actual coach that returned her and her classmates after their swimming lesson last Tuesday”. This may be a school bus dropping kids off, I don’t know, so we have to be careful not to judge without all the facts.

And kids having kids having kids, now 3rd generation, don’t even go there. >:(
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Golfbuddy on 26 February 2008, 22:47:14
Ok, some statistics to balance the perception with the facts. It remains a fact that children are very unlikely to be the subject of an abduction. Millions of children are out, unaccompanied, every day and come to no harm whatsoever.

"Stranger successful child abductions In 2002/03 there were 59 cases involving a stranger successfully abducting a child or children, resulting in 68 victims/offences (9% of all child abductions recorded).
• The average age of these victims was ten years, the same as the victims of stranger attempted abductions.
• 54% of the victims were female.
• 74% of victims (n=39) were white, 17% (n=9) were black, 8% (n=4) were Asian, and one victim’s ethnic appearance was coded as ‘other’.
None of these offences involved the victim being taken overseas. In all offences where information was available (63% of the stranger successful offences) the abducted child was recovered within 24 hours of being taken. There was no information as to when the remaining 25 victims were recovered. In most offences, insufficient details were available to code the motive for the offence reliably.
However, in 12 offences (19%) it was clear the motive was sexual. Two victims were subjected to a serious sexual assault; in the remaining ten offences it was not clear (from the information collected) how serious the sexual component of the offence had been."


Source: Home Office. Findings. Child abduction: understanding police recorded crime statistics.
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Vamps on 27 February 2008, 00:54:23
Not appropriate given the seriousness of this thread. imho >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Golfbuddy on 27 February 2008, 09:23:16
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Not appropriate given the seriousness of this thread. imho >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(

How can it not be appropriate to provide some statistics in an effort to balance the arguement?

PM sent.
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: smoothomega on 27 February 2008, 09:44:17
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Not appropriate given the seriousness of this thread. imho >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(

How can it not be appropriate to provide some statistics in an effort to balance the arguement?

PM sent.

I really don't see what the problem is here  :-/
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 27 February 2008, 10:05:10
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Not appropriate given the seriousness of this thread. imho >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(

How can it not be appropriate to provide some statistics in an effort to balance the arguement?

PM sent.

I must say, unless I'm missing something, I didn't see anything inappropriate with GB's post...

Media debates like this are bound to attract varied opinions... but can be a good debate when discussed in a constructive way :y
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: DaveyDavey on 27 February 2008, 10:47:03
Comparing the recent dissapearance of Shannon Matthews to the case of the McCanns - I think is going a bit far.

The McCanns knowingly left their 3 year old daughter and twin two year olds alone in a room whilst they had dinner some distance away - they had done this previously as well. That is negligence of the highest order in my opinion and I think they deserve to suffer for the rest of their lives for it. My sympathy lies only with Madeline (as harsh as that sounds).

Shannon is a 9 year old girl who was catching the bus to and from school and swimming on a regular basis, with no issues in the past. At the age of 9 I was walking to and from school on my own. Lets not be too hasty in judging the parents in this situation and making comparisons to the McCanns.
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: JamesV6CDX on 27 February 2008, 11:38:09
I don't think anyone is making a comparison between the two - the McCanns is just one in many examples of negligent parents.

The purpose of my thread was not really to single out one instance, but to comment on the generalised growing trend that parenting values don't seem to be anywhere near what they were..

Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: Golfbuddy on 27 February 2008, 11:44:20
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Not appropriate given the seriousness of this thread. imho >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:( >:(

How can it not be appropriate to provide some statistics in an effort to balance the arguement?

PM sent.

Sorry, should have added a couple of smillies. I don't want Mike to think I was making light of this matter. PM was merely to explain my point in more detail than was reasonable on open forum.  :y
Title: Re: Missing girl - parents partly to blame?
Post by: 106rallye on 27 February 2008, 13:33:37
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The trouble is .. no one is licenced, tested or even taught how to be a parent - anyone can do it.

In times past "young parents" learned the rules from their parents/grandparents etc etc, nowadays so many people either live alone, don't communicate, or think they know better.. that the basics just aren't done.

Just think what  things will be like in 10 years time when the present bunch become parents ??  All they know is computers/facebook/bebo ...they won't have a clue how to be a parent.

:(

I agree with that one. i think it is the parents of today who have made society what it is (not a very nice place), people are forgetting about natural human instincs when it comes to bringing up childen. Most parents of today seem to want to the thier kids friend rather than a parent. I think the next generation of parents will be much more better as they have seen the mistakes their parents have made.

For example the "its better to drink alcohol in the house than on a street corner" attitude that a lot of parents up here have for 16/17 year old is the biggest load of bull i have ever heard, and this is from experiance!

Give a kid an inch with anything they will take a mile, it a natural instinct that EVERY child has, not something they choose to do. If parents started to look at why kids do things / want to do things rather than what they are doing / want to do the parenting would greatly improve!

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The McCanns knowingly left their 3 year old daughter and twin two year olds alone in a room whilst they had dinner some distance away - they had done this previously as well. That is negligence of the highest order in my opinion and I think they deserve to suffer for the rest of their lives for it. My sympathy lies only with Madeline (as harsh as that sounds).

Come on mate did you actually see the distance from when they were eating and where the apartment was? it was the equlivant of sitting in the garden with the kids in the house.