when I said "and whatever flywheel combination you're using has the same height as the gearbox is expecting", that's what i was on about.
most of the Omegas used dual-mass flywheels, which are thicker than the single-mass one that you have. This means that the end face of the clutch cover, the part that the release bearing mates to is further away from the rear face of the cylinder block. This is the "clutch height".
There are a number of options for you......
use a flywheel from a 2-litre Omega, complete with the clutch - if lucky, you'll get one without DMF
Use the flywheel that you have and change to a compatible driven plate.
get a special flywheel
Use a flywheel from a Carlton, and convert to cable clutch - again from the same vehicle.
regarding driven plates, you say that you have 9", which is 228mm. According to ZF, the plate that you have on the red-top is 228mm and 24teeth (sprung centre), whilst the plate you got with the gearbox is 240mm and 14 teeth (solid centre).
The Cavalier turbo 4x4 / Calibra turbo 4/4 have a friction disc of the correct diameter and correct hub splines with springs. Other than that, the Carlton 2.0 is a tad smaller, but acceptable in the hub department. I can't think of any reason why either shouldn't fit, but I'd certainly advice getting a second-hand one to trial-fit before you spend any appreciable money.