Ben is 10 now. He's a little darling but can be very demanding. But he's got a cheeky face so gets away with murder 
Here he is at his holy communion:
....may I ask if you are standing beside Ben?
Oh I have to keep him close Zulu, he'd cause murder in a telephone box
Ahh, bless! Harry too has an angelic look about him but would cause murder in an empty house! With help from his 2 year old brother of course!
We have a diagnosis of high functioning autism. It should be aspergers but as he showed delay with his speech due to low muscle tone and a struggle to form words they couldn't diagnose it!
He does really well though despite mobility and feeding problems, he defied the odds and has settled into mainstream school brilliantly.
Stick with the high functioning autism Ljay. Aspergers carries no benefits as far as one-to-one tuition or financial help goes. Aspergers kids are expected to muddle through and, although Ben is brilliant at his studies, some are not so fortunate and have learning difficulties as well. It's not a fair system and if it wasn't for Maureen being so knowledgeable (being a head teacher) we would have been adrift in a sea of despair at times.
Thank you.
We had benefits before his diagnosis fortunately so its not made a lot of difference. He has full 1:1 support at school which is a mine field as we live in wales but he goes to school in england (less than a mile away).
Know exactly where you are coming from in the sea of despair though!
I've known since he was born that he was autistic. My professional background is with learning disabilities so I wasn't completely clueless, didn't divulge what experience I had unless I wasn't getting any joy though! I was just a neurotic mother being pushed from pillar to post and we didn't get a diagnosis till he was 4.
The school have been really good with him, though some parents have said that if hes disabled enough to need 1:1 then he shouldn't be in the school! (no one has said this in my hearing as yet, can't think why!!)
People say its a shame, but it doesn't bother Harry, he doesn't know any different! I wouldn't change him for the world, I am so proud of him!
Ahhhhh, that is lovely Ljay 
8-) 8-) 8-)
That is exactly what I say about my gandson George, aged 4, who is severely disabled and my other 'adopted' grandson Robert, aged 5, who is autistic. Both I love dearly as the little people they are, and I am so proud of both of them and their mothers!! 8-) 8-)
Sometimes, like now I am in tears though about how the world will treat them!
The world is a cruel place unfortunately, I try not to dwell on what it will throw at him!
At the moment the cruel things that are said go over his head and I hope this continues till he finds his place in the world and is settled enough to not care what others think.
He's had some awful things said to him and I went through a bad patch last year when we didn't go out of the door as I couldn't face the world.
I finally realised that I owed it to harry to be strong so i got him a tshrt saying 'i'm not naughty I have autism' on it and out we went.
Not politically correct but the uninitiated run a mile from autism and he was left alone!
He's generally even tempered but will lash out if people invade his space, it makes him extremely anxious!
Not enough credit is given to mums of disabled kids, its an emotional rollercoaster. I went through a stage of grieving for the child he will never be. And I'm one of the lucky ones, Harrys problems aren't severe!
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