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[stuart30]

My wife on returning form the Philippines recently was sporting a black eye and swollen cheek.

Long and short of it is there was a family disagreement and her brother ran at her and with the full force he could managed punched her in the face....when he realised what he had done fled the village (wife's family own several properties close by each other) but as of today is now back as if nothing happened.

My wife (who"s only little) was knocked unconscious and taken too hospital...luckily the following day (yes the next DAY) she woke up feeling sick and disorientated but no broken bones.

Brother in law heard what happened but is too cowardly too do anything (wife's brother through years of drinking heavily is mentally unhinged)....so im left in the position of ""having"" too deal with him,i cant possibly do nothing as firstly no one hurts my family and gets away with it and secondly my wife would be humiliated in the eyes of the locals.

Ive spoken too the wife at length and the only two options she agree"s with are.

1st Borrow brother in laws (not loaded) revolver (hand guns are legal over there) and scare the living daylights out of her brother....drag him out of his house and threaten too shoot him.

2nd Dont tell her family were coming over for a visit....then pay him an unannounced visit and teach him how it feels someone 3 times his size belting him.

Be interested in opinions or suggestions on how too deal with this as its really eating me up inside.

[markey mark]

i would knock ten bells of shite out of him mate  

[Richie London]

ive been through all this with my sister yrs ago. her bloke would hit her, she rings me and he does a runner, next day she tells me to forget it. this went on and on till i finally stopped it myself.

[stuart30]

i would knock ten bells of shite out of him mate  

That was my first thought...was even on the phone too boss too sub me the air fare.

However prison in the Philippines isnt like it is over here.....so need too box clever.

[BigAl]

i would knock ten bells of shite out of him mate  

I'm with Markey Mark on this

[hans solo]

he def needs sorting out.

[markey mark]

i would knock ten bells of shite out of him mate  

That was my first thought...was even on the phone too boss too sub me the air fare.

However prison in the Philippines isnt like it is over here.....so need too box clever.

do it the day you are returning and do it so he carnt speak or write  

[zippo]

i would knock ten bells of shite out of him mate  

That was my first thought...was even on the phone too boss too sub me the air fare.

However prison in the Philippines isnt like it is over here.....so need too box clever.

do it the day you are returning and do it so he carnt speak or write  

sounds good to me  

[stuart30]

i would knock ten bells of shite out of him mate  

That was my first thought...was even on the phone too boss too sub me the air fare.

However prison in the Philippines isnt like it is over here.....so need too box clever.

do it the day you are returning and do it so he carnt speak or write  

That's what i suggested too the wife...im not sure if physical violence is the answer or intimidation.

One side of me wants too hurt him...the other wants too scare him too death hence why i asked the wife about my brother in laws gun.

What ever i do needs too mess him up so bad he never forgets.

[Jay w]

he need to go for a 'walk' with you.....and a 'chat'

If i was in your shoes i would make sure no one sees you going for your 'walk' and make sure that he cant talk about the 'chat' you have had until you are out of the country......

Be careful thought, there is a fine line between sorting someone out and losing control......and it ending up being far more serious

[Martin_1962]

Thump him - guns can be nasty

[zippo]

id have thought having a gun shoved in your face would mess up anyone let alone mess up their pants for them

[stuart30]

Trouble is ""going for a walk"" is that theres people everywhere...virtually impossible too do anything with being seen,not that it would be of any concern.

Reason thought about the gun (just an old revolver) was he wouldn't know it wasn't loaded and seeing/hearing that hammer click as it falls.?

My mum who is normally very level headed and placid suggested sending his family (wife/grown up kids) a condolence card or possibly a wheelchair brochure.....although i think that would be too subtle.

Whats really effected me and the wife too a lesser degree is if anything had happened such as hitting her head whilst knocked out or suffering from side effects (ex wife had epilepsy through a head injury) my twins would have been stranded 6000 miles from home....just makes my blood run cold.

[damon80]

First of all, you're upset - and understandably so!  Someone's hurt the one you love, and there's nothing what hurts a bloke more than that.

But, the second you point a gun - loaded or not - you're as bad, if not worse, than him.  Plus worse case scenario is that you're looking at doing a fair bit of bird in a foreign country.

I'm a firm beliver in the fact that guns don't kill people - the person holding the gun does.  Gun's aren't an object of power-status; they're something that is a priveledge, and something that should be respected.

The fact that you're even suggesting such a thing really does concern me, particularly seeing as kids read this forum...

But like I said, I do understand that you're really upset.  If I were you, I'd bide my time - there'll come a point when he wants a favour/help, and then you can tell him where to go.  

[stuart30]

First of all, you're upset - and understandably so!  Someone's hurt the one you love, and there's nothing what hurts a bloke more than that.

But, the second you point a gun - loaded or not - you're as bad, if not worse, than him.  Plus worse case scenario is that you're looking at doing a fair bit of bird in a foreign country.

I'm a firm believer in the fact that guns don't kill people - the person holding the gun does.  Gun's aren't an object of power-status; they're something that is a priveledge, and something that should be respected.

The fact that you're even suggesting such a thing really does concern me, particularly seeing as kids read this forum...

But like I said, I do understand that you're really upset.  If I were you, I'd bide my time - there'll come a point when he wants a favour/help, and then you can tell him where to go.  

Appreciate what your saying and normally id agree....turn the other cheek.

Unfortunately this isn't going too work...rightly or wrongly he has too be dealt with,if i have too sink too his level then so be it.

There's much more at stake then male pride...although i freely admit it hurts like hell....its the fact she"s been humiliated and hurt in the process.

For no other reason than the fact my kids could have lost there mum i"ll take care of him....