Meat Loaf's 'Bat out of Hell' is one of my favourites that 'gets me going', as does Led Zep's "Stairway to Heaven".

The Beatles "Ticket to Ride" makes for a fairly relaxed ride.

In heavy traffic or just big motorway hold ups it is The Rolling Stones "Paint it Black" that I put up full volume. 8-) 8-) 8-)
So yes, the answers for me is that the music does affect how you drive!

I have a very disturbing but educational montage of major incidents (mostly bombing incidents) which has that song as a backing track......I cant listen to it anymore

I cannot pretend to have come under enemy fire (or was it blue on blue with the Americans!!) but certainly can understand what you mean. Music can, and often does, relate to certain tragic or very happy moments in your life and form an indelible life long emotional link.
Maybe not quite the same, but similar, I was very much of the anti-Vietnam generation, with some strong passions about what the USA was doing. Some years later a drama documentary was made about a group of young American conscripts being called up to fight in Nam. For me an unforgettable piece of this great film was a true scene of B52's unloading their bombs in standard 'carpet bombing practice' to the musical accompaniment of Pachelbel,s
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Whenever I hear that music, which I do play in the car, I just 'live' that scene as the beauty of that music, and the horrors of war, interplays with each other