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[kris9128]

many thanks to every 1 for your help and advice. it's good to know that there are others out there in the same situation. made the first move today and have contacted cruse so will see where it goes from here. once again, many thanks to every 1.

Good work, really is best to talk.

I found this out the (very) hard way  

All the best.

thats my problem. got this thing in my head about it being my problem and why should i burden others with my problems when they have their own. had a major talking session with the missus this weekend and she never knew that mums death had affected me as bad as it has. and we been together for 3 years. she actually had a go at me for not talking to her about it. got to get it sorted tho cos it slowly destroying me.
thanks again for all the kind copmments and encouragement. waiting for cruse to get back to me with details of my local/nearest centre. just hope i can get this sorted and eventually move on. thanks again to everyone,

[Jimbob]

many thanks to every 1 for your help and advice. it's good to know that there are others out there in the same situation. made the first move today and have contacted cruse so will see where it goes from here. once again, many thanks to every 1.

Good work, really is best to talk.

I found this out the (very) hard way  

All the best.

thats my problem. got this thing in my head about it being my problem and why should i burden others with my problems when they have their own. had a major talking session with the missus this weekend and she never knew that mums death had affected me as bad as it has. and we been together for 3 years. she actually had a go at me for not talking to her about it. got to get it sorted tho cos it slowly destroying me.
thanks again for all the kind copmments and encouragement. waiting for cruse to get back to me with details of my local/nearest centre. just hope i can get this sorted and eventually move on. thanks again to everyone,

You dont know how similar that sounds!

[kris9128]

many thanks to every 1 for your help and advice. it's good to know that there are others out there in the same situation. made the first move today and have contacted cruse so will see where it goes from here. once again, many thanks to every 1.

Good work, really is best to talk.

I found this out the (very) hard way  

All the best.

thats my problem. got this thing in my head about it being my problem and why should i burden others with my problems when they have their own. had a major talking session with the missus this weekend and she never knew that mums death had affected me as bad as it has. and we been together for 3 years. she actually had a go at me for not talking to her about it. got to get it sorted tho cos it slowly destroying me.
thanks again for all the kind copmments and encouragement. waiting for cruse to get back to me with details of my local/nearest centre. just hope i can get this sorted and eventually move on. thanks again to everyone,

You dont know how similar that sounds!

according to the missus it a STUPID MAN THING.

[Jimbob]

many thanks to every 1 for your help and advice. it's good to know that there are others out there in the same situation. made the first move today and have contacted cruse so will see where it goes from here. once again, many thanks to every 1.

Good work, really is best to talk.

I found this out the (very) hard way  

All the best.

thats my problem. got this thing in my head about it being my problem and why should i burden others with my problems when they have their own. had a major talking session with the missus this weekend and she never knew that mums death had affected me as bad as it has. and we been together for 3 years. she actually had a go at me for not talking to her about it. got to get it sorted tho cos it slowly destroying me.
thanks again for all the kind copmments and encouragement. waiting for cruse to get back to me with details of my local/nearest centre. just hope i can get this sorted and eventually move on. thanks again to everyone,

You dont know how similar that sounds!

according to the missus it a STUPID MAN THING.

according to my (female) doctor, it is a very normal male thing to do!
Still wrong though, goes against the grain to talk and open up, but it has been such a big help doing so.

[Vamps]

many thanks to every 1 for your help and advice. it's good to know that there are others out there in the same situation. made the first move today and have contacted cruse so will see where it goes from here. once again, many thanks to every 1.

Good work, really is best to talk.

I found this out the (very) hard way  

All the best.

thats my problem. got this thing in my head about it being my problem and why should i burden others with my problems when they have their own. had a major talking session with the missus this weekend and she never knew that mums death had affected me as bad as it has. and we been together for 3 years. she actually had a go at me for not talking to her about it. got to get it sorted tho cos it slowly destroying me.
thanks again for all the kind copmments and encouragement. waiting for cruse to get back to me with details of my local/nearest centre. just hope i can get this sorted and eventually move on. thanks again to everyone,

You dont know how similar that sounds!

according to the missus it a STUPID MAN THING.

She is right, but we are all guilty at times...................

[HolyCount]

many thanks to every 1 for your help and advice. it's good to know that there are others out there in the same situation. made the first move today and have contacted cruse so will see where it goes from here. once again, many thanks to every 1.

Good work, really is best to talk.

I found this out the (very) hard way  

All the best.

thats my problem. got this thing in my head about it being my problem and why should i burden others with my problems when they have their own. had a major talking session with the missus this weekend and she never knew that mums death had affected me as bad as it has. and we been together for 3 years. she actually had a go at me for not talking to her about it. got to get it sorted tho cos it slowly destroying me.
thanks again for all the kind copmments and encouragement. waiting for cruse to get back to me with details of my local/nearest centre. just hope i can get this sorted and eventually move on. thanks again to everyone,

You dont know how similar that sounds!

according to the missus it a STUPID MAN THING.

Speaking as a stupid man ... she's probably right !!!!  My missus always manages to catch me out when I am teary  ( the number of things I have had stuck in my eye is unbelievable!!)

[LJay]

Speaking as the wife of a 'stupid man' things got so much easier when james opened up and talked to me. not knowing how he was feeling and just what emotions were eating away at him made me feel completely useless and a failure as a wife. TBH it nearly wrecked our relationship.

Well done Kris for getting some help and best wishes to you and your family, hope things get better for you.

[Bandit127]

Good luck Kris.

A simple fact here is that nobody deserves to feel like you have for that long. You deserve better and you have my sincere best wishes for the journey to getting it.

Once again, good luck. Keep us posted if you can.

Jim

[Lazydocker]

I can only echo the sentiments of support which have been posted previously... Talking feels alien to us men but, from experience, it is by far the best thing you can do.

Good luck in sorting yourself out and feel free to use us all here as any form of relief you need. Even if it's just a rant you need, we'll be here to listen.