I used to get bullied at school as i was a bit of a loner (by choice, had lots of things going on in the family)
I was always told by my parents to stand up for myself and when one of them tried to get me outside of school, i got him first and walked away. Got into a lot of trouble with the school, even though the bully had a really heavy history of bullying etc.
I think that was the start of the the 'victim is always wrong' syndrome (and that was only 25 ish years ago lol)
I got bullied too, mainly because I had no mum and had been through foster care and eventually to live with my grandparents. Like that wasn't hard enough without being bullied about it.
Repeated visits to school and meetings with parents got me no where. As a child I was ridiculously shy and people around me where stunned when I finally saw red, walked up behind the girl, spun her round and punched her, breaking her nose.
It cost me a trip to the police station and a caution for ABH but it was worth it as the hassle stopped.
I was always brought up that if someone hits you, then hit them back twice as hard.
I see it in my son's school, where I also work, the teaching staff seem to be ruled by the bullys. My son has been punched in the face and no one deemed it important enough to tell me, I had to go in on the bounce to get the information.
If I'd gotten into trouble at school I dreaded my dad finding out as I'd get a rollicking at home too, now it seems that the parents tell the teachers off instead. A sad state of affairs.
We're not even supposed to prompt children's manners as it's their choice if they use them or not. What happened to manners cost nowt but get you far?
Perhaps by the bully's parents, I see lots of examples of he who shouts loudest gets what they want or the teachers avoid contacting them to complain about their child, also seen a recent example of this in college, where they wanted someone else to contact the parent... 
I've been given a dressing down in the playground for stuff my boys have done but the real naughty families get the privacy of the school office for their discussion. Usually for petty things too. Staff know that decent families won't kick off but that the scum will. 
I have concerns for our youngest who starts in sept as one of the kids going with him (age 4) has battered me black and blue, yet there's nothing we can do. Not a nice family at all.
Trouble I've found, professionally, is that if we involve Social Services they expect us to tell the family that we have done so, which leaves us at risk when we've been intimidated by them previously. We'd be inclined to do it anonymously in future and save ourselves the grief.
The world's gone mad! 
If that was from the school then no, that is not acceptable, if you personally then that is fine, if either of you want true autonomy go via the NSPCC...not a route liked by Social Services but hey ho..... 
Social services told us that we would have to tell the family of the referral that we had made to them. We are a small community preschool in a very intimate community, staff live locally to the site and we were genuinely concerned for our safety over it.
It wasn't a pleasant meeting that one.
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