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[BigAl]

Brother in law heard what happened but is too cowardly too do anything

How about telling him to sort it or you will sort them both out ?

[albitz]

could the wider family circle not ostricise him,tell him to leave and not come back ? :-/

[stuart30]

Brother in law heard what happened but is too cowardly too do anything

How about telling him to sort it or you will sort them both out ?

First question too the missus was why the hell didnt he do something...but too be fair the brother in law is a lovely guy but not the physical sort and i really cant blame him for not tackling her brother.

[Baron Von Spongebob]

A subtle approach is need.

Hit him as hard as you can.
Then point the piece in his face.
Cock it and tell him, You do it again i will pull the trigger.

Make sure he wont say anything to get you in trouble.

I am a big believer of dont get mad get even but, If someone steps over the line then its an eye for an eye.
No pun inteneded.

[stuart30]

could the wider family circle not ostricise him,tell him to leave and not come back ? :-/

They have...he"s lost any land rights or family rights as a whole (as has his immediate family) which will have a huge negative effect on him...the family are in the process of selling the plot his house is built on (bamboo native house so clearing it wouldn't be an issue).

I just feel i need too do something...too be fair its only the second time in 30 odd years Ive felt this strongly about something.

[albitz]

If they stick to their plan then it sounds like he is pretty well oppsed.
just need him told to move to a different area as you intend to re-arrange his features during an unannounced visit in the near future.
living in fear is worse than getting a kicking in my experience.
Also saves you from risking a stretch in a philipino jail.

[stuart30]

If they stick to their plan then it sounds like he is pretty well oppsed.
just need him told to move to a different area as you intend to re-arrange his features during an unannounced visit in the near future.
living in fear is worse than getting a kicking in my experience.
Also saves you from risking a stretch in a philipino jail.

That's whats crossed my mind....the intimidation/fear might have a greater impact on his mental health.

Trouble is due too years of excessive drinking (they make there own coconut wine which is hideously potent) we don't think he"s the full shilling anyway.

[albitz]

Can they have people sectioned over there ?

[stuart30]

Can they have people sectioned over there ?

Not in the province as the infrastructure isnt in place sadly...that and family would normally take care of the person in need.

[Gaffers]

Firstly, as someone who uses firearms on a regular basis I would strongly advise NOT to use the pistol.  It is a lethal force and an accident or too much temptation can have you locked away for many years in a prison where you will be called mary (or mai chong)

However, violence toward women really gets my back up and I agree that the local customs need to be taken into account on this one.  Go over there and scared the shit out of him physically and then ask the family why they havent done it and that you are ashamed that he has not been punished by the family.

[gwa]

My wife on returning form the Philippines recently was sporting a black eye and swollen cheek.

Long and short of it is there was a family disagreement and her brother ran at her and with the full force he could managed punched her in the face....when he realised what he had done fled the village (wife's family own several properties close by each other) but as of today is now back as if nothing happened.

My wife (who"s only little) was knocked unconscious and taken too hospital...luckily the following day (yes the next DAY) she woke up feeling sick and disorientated but no broken bones.

Brother in law heard what happened but is too cowardly too do anything (wife's brother through years of drinking heavily is mentally unhinged)....so im left in the position of ""having"" too deal with him,i cant possibly do nothing as firstly no one hurts my family and gets away with it and secondly my wife would be humiliated in the eyes of the locals.

Ive spoken too the wife at length and the only two options she agree"s with are.

1st Borrow brother in laws (not loaded) revolver (hand guns are legal over there) and scare the living daylights out of her brother....drag him out of his house and threaten too shoot him.

2nd Dont tell her family were coming over for a visit....then pay him an unannounced visit and teach him how it feels someone 3 times his size belting him.

Be interested in opinions or suggestions on how too deal with this as its really eating me up inside.

I would settle for '2nd' repeated by '2nd' then put '2nd' on a loop.... but I'd get someone else to do it 'cos idiots like that will run to the police, but with no bruises on your mits , little proof of involvement.