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[The Red Baron]

I have a female friend at a local pub (works on the bar). i get a phone call at lunchtime...shes in tears, wont tell me whats wrong, just says....im sorry, wouldnt let me go & see her, thought she was having a bad time.
wasnt until later an ambulance turned up, she had cut her wrists. im so gutted i didnt react or did/do something. thankfully she was found in time or i would never live with myself tbh.
what makes people do this i will never know.
sorry, needed to get that off my chest peeps.

[STMO123]

Well...I think perhaps you need to sort out why she chose to ring you in preference to anyone else. Maybe more than just a friend?

[the alarming man]

well you cannot blame yourself for someone elses actions...but most importantly you need to be there for her now more than anything...

[hercules]

well you cannot blame yourself for someone elses actions...but most importantly you need to be there for her now more than anything...

2nd that and if you look into it wrist cutting is a cry for help and its you shes wanting it from by the look of it,dont know what your relationship is with this woman but be careful is all i can say and no doubt she will be offered proffesional help...hope she is gonna be ok.

[SJKOO01]

Sorry to hear you've had such news as this Jon  . Never a good thing to have to be on the receiving end with this sort of thing.  I've been there myself.

You can never tell what's truly going through someone else's mind at any time.  But you can't blame yourself that you didn't go round at the end of the day, you weren't to know she was going to do that 

I think if she had really meant to go ahead with her plan, she wouldn't have contacted anyone, she would have just seen it through.  The fact that she called you is a sign that despite she wouldn't tell you what was wrong, it was in a way, her way of "crying for help", but sounds like in the state she was in, she couldn't or didn't want to say what she's really going through.
Also with her being found, it sounds like she may have contacted someone else.

The good news is she was found and will now get the help she needs.  You though need to be careful how you handle this yourself as well as you both for your own sake, as you can be draw inadvertently into their 'dark place' as it's difficult to know what to do for the best.
Try taking to the professionals if you can to see where your friend has been coming from, may help you decide what you need or want to help out with, if you do?

I'm no expert, but hope this helps you in some way?  If you need to chat you know where I am

[The Red Baron]

thankyou Mike. 

[Lazydocker]

Been in similar situations a few times John. IMHO, you have to be strong for them but not pander to them. Being the type of blunt, free speaking person I am I deal with it as a bit of a "joke" but make sure they know I'm always there to help May not be right, but it works for me

The fact she called you means she wasn't 100% serious about it (as stated) so try to get her to talk, when she is ready, and see if there is anything that can be done to help

Just my experiences But, as said, you mustn't blame yourself

[redelitev6]

  Oh no, women and emotions , something i'm just no good at 

[paul.lovejoy]

gooseman said it all spot on..hope your friend starts to feel better but dont beat yoursdelf up Jon, dont know your relationship with the lady but good luck with it all

i hope things improve for your friend

[The Red Baron]

thanks for all the replies, she is doing well at the moment. the state of mind has imroved very well. its a long story that i wont bore you all with at the moment. but a fiend must do what he has to do.

[SJKOO01]

thanks for all the replies, she is doing well at the moment. the state of mind has imroved very well. its a long story that i wont bore you all with at the moment. but a fiend must do what he has to do.

You don't need to explain yourself Jon, that's your business chap.  It's a good that her state of mind has improved and a good start.  Hope it continues

[Keith ABS]

  I agree , hope she is well on the way to good health, mentaly as well.   

[The Red Baron]

  I agree , hope she is well on the way to good health, mentaly as well.   

im hoping so too. 

[STMO123]

thanks for all the replies, she is doing well at the moment. the state of mind has imroved very well. its a long story that i wont bore you all with at the moment. but a fiend must do what he has to do.

  Don't be hard on yourself, John. I'm sure you're not really a fiend.