It is certainly possible to disconnect the power sounder and in fact many have done so permanently because they are known to present a fire risk to the car. Like you I didn't discover this forum until I had handed over at least £2k to the local main stealers, for various minor repairs, including replacing the power sounder. Since joining OOF I only pay VX dealers for genuine VX parts.
In general I have found that main stealers cannot be trusted, in recent years I have been outrageously and willfully deceived by main dealers for both Vauxhall and Fiat. Find yourself an independant with a good local reputation or better still get stuck in yourself using the fantastic maintenance guides right here.
I have found that even with my limited mechanical experience there is always someone online here willing to offer help and advice.
I'm sorry I can't help you with your alarm problem myself, but I am sure someone else soon will.