Can you post a pic of your LPG ECU and particularly any labels on it mate?
Your situation is getting painful
so I just rang micromise for you, seeing as I'm not too far from them!
The chap was reasonably helpful. First off, he said if your kit is micromise, and the lead didn't come from them direct, you're flogging a dead horse, it will never connect.
Also, He said the company policy is that usually they only supply their software and lead to approved installers.
That doesn't mean necessarily micromise outlets... they just don't supply it to the general public, because they think it causes more trouble than it's worth.
What he did say, however, is that you WILL be able to get hold of the lead and software, IF you do it via an approved installer in ireland, and get them to contact micromise.
So it's possible to get it - just a bit of a faff.
We do need to see your ECU for sure to see what it is, first, though
For £300 for a brand new stag front end kit, be very, very wary about putting to much time and money into this one....
Out of interest, who installed it for you? Could I maybe email them, just to check things like RPM sensors are connected to the right places?
Without a micromise wiring diagram, it's very, very likely something has been mis-connected somewhere... for example, with no RPM signal or coolant temp info the ECU will never let it run on gas - it could be something that simple...
Really wish I could have checked all of this while you were over here, are you coming back at any point?