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[MR MISTER]

I am worried. I am angry. I am frustrated. My wife has come in from work tonight knackered, again. She has slight scoliosis (curvature of the spine) and her back is killing her. As most of you know, she is a headteacher. She leaves home each mornind at 6:45 and is in school for 7:15. She seldom gets home before 6:30 and then she scoffs her tea and gets the laptop out. She manages to fit in a bath of an evening then back on the laptop, closes it down about ten and straight to bed, asleep by five past. Her staff don't seem to 'get it'. They constantly winge and demand things from her which are almost impossible to implement, all in the name of their 'work/life' balance.
She is killing herself but won't admit it and there's absolutely nothing I can do to make her see sense.
Pissed right off.
Oh, and forgot to mention, weekends are spent emailing/planning for the week ahead and sleeping with head on laptop.

[chrisgixer]

Mines the same. Won't let it go.

It's in her own hands though, in our case. Trouble is, it's now expected.

[MR MISTER]

Sorry. A small rant there.

[albitz]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

[MR MISTER]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

She's only 42, Albs. Nowhere near retirement. I have tried to convince her to take step down, less money but less responsibility. But, apparently, that would be admitting failure.

[cem_devecioglu]

I am worried. I am angry. I am frustrated. My wife has come in from work tonight knackered, again. She has slight scoliosis (curvature of the spine) and her back is killing her. As most of you know, she is a headteacher. She leaves home each mornind at 6:45 and is in school for 7:15. She seldom gets home before 6:30 and then she scoffs her tea and gets the laptop out. She manages to fit in a bath of an evening then back on the laptop, closes it down about ten and straight to bed, asleep by five past. Her staff don't seem to 'get it'. They constantly winge and demand things from her which are almost impossible to implement, all in the name of their 'work/life' balance.
She is killing herself but won't admit it and there's absolutely nothing I can do to make her see sense.
Pissed right off.
Oh, and forgot to mention, weekends are spent emailing/planning for the week ahead and sleeping with head on laptop.

dont know what to say really STMO..  you cant help      or may be you can probably she is too busy to get the picture from outside..   you have to convince her that life is short and nothing is more important than her health..  but I'm not sure she will accept..

so fast forward the film and tell her a scenario if she looses her health what will happen..

[cem_devecioglu]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

She's only 42, Albs. Nowhere near retirement. I have tried to convince her to take step down, less money but less responsibility. But, apparently, that would be admitting failure.

Wrong.. if you think like that , you cant help her

[cem_devecioglu]

I am worried. I am angry. I am frustrated. My wife has come in from work tonight knackered, again. She has slight scoliosis (curvature of the spine) and her back is killing her. As most of you know, she is a headteacher. She leaves home each mornind at 6:45 and is in school for 7:15. She seldom gets home before 6:30 and then she scoffs her tea and gets the laptop out. She manages to fit in a bath of an evening then back on the laptop, closes it down about ten and straight to bed, asleep by five past. Her staff don't seem to 'get it'. They constantly winge and demand things from her which are almost impossible to implement, all in the name of their 'work/life' balance.
She is killing herself but won't admit it and there's absolutely nothing I can do to make her see sense.
Pissed right off.
Oh, and forgot to mention, weekends are spent emailing/planning for the week ahead and sleeping with head on laptop.

dont know what to say really STMO..  you cant help      or may be you can probably she is too busy to get the picture from outside..   you have to convince her that life is short and nothing is more important than her health..  but I'm not sure she will accept..

so fast forward the film and tell her a scenario if she looses her health what will happen..

thats inevitable for everyone.. so forcing yourself till the end is meaningless.. but people generally understand their mistake late

[MR MISTER]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

She's only 42, Albs. Nowhere near retirement. I have tried to convince her to take step down, less money but less responsibility. But, apparently, that would be admitting failure.

Wrong.. if you think like that , you cant help her

There's nothing I can say to her that I haven't already, Cem. I know folk can't really advise....just getting it off my chest.

[albitz]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

She's only 42, Albs. Nowhere near retirement. I have tried to convince her to take step down, less money but less responsibility. But, apparently, that would be admitting failure.

Failure will the mindset if she stopped because she couldn't do it. She has proved she can do it,but if she then stops because she doesn't want to do it, its not failure imo. I was in a not dissimilar position about 10 years ago. Half way up a managerial ladder that I didn't want to be on. I got off the ladder and haven't regretted it.
Sounds like your silver scouse tonque needs to do some work.

[cem_devecioglu]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

She's only 42, Albs. Nowhere near retirement. I have tried to convince her to take step down, less money but less responsibility. But, apparently, that would be admitting failure.

Wrong.. if you think like that , you cant help her

1.There's nothing I can say to her that I haven't already, Cem.

2. I know folk can't really advise....

3.just getting it off my chest.

1. probably you didint try your best still     buy her some roses on a sunday (send me the bill) prepare her a breakfast then with all your seriousness tell her what will happen.. if necessary write it on a paper (work on it)  and give in her hand  - must be a little long and sign under it..

2. we can

3. thats ok, glad you shared with us..

[MR MISTER]

Does she still love doing the job Steve ? If so,probably not much you can do for the moment. If not,gently try to persuade her of the great benefits of retiring from it early,and perhaps doing something else ?

She's only 42, Albs. Nowhere near retirement. I have tried to convince her to take step down, less money but less responsibility. But, apparently, that would be admitting failure.

Failure will the mindset if she stopped because she couldn't do it. She has proved she can do it,but if she then stops because she doesn't want to do it, its not failure imo. I was in a not dissimilar position about 10 years ago. Half way up a managerial ladder that I didn't want to be on. I got off the ladder and haven't regretted it.
Sounds like your silver scouse tonque needs to do some work.

Pardon?

[albitz]

Thought you said it was a serious post. ..........and btw, wtf is a successful woman in her early 40,s doing with a miserable old coffin dodging shifty scouse git like you ? 

[MR MISTER]

The thing is, she's like an alcoholic before they admit there's a problem. And I am worrying about nothing.
If I get to say 'I told you so', it wont be much consolation.

[MR MISTER]

Thought you said it was a serious post. ..........and btw, wtf is a successful woman in her early 40,s doing with a miserable old coffin dodging shifty scouse git like you ? 

Well, you see, it's the size of my.............no, never mind.