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[Field Marshal Dr. Opti]

just come off the phone to a friend I haven't spoken to for a while.

Informed me in a very sad voice that his 26 year old daughter committed suicide last week.

To say he is a 'broken' man is an understatement.

Very sad. but there seems to be a lot of it about amongst young people.  

[STEMO]

Very sad. I can't ever see a situation so bad that would make me want to do that but, as you say, seems to be a spate of it at the moment. 

[biggriffin]

It does seem, that younger people nowadays are heavily influenced by how many likes or friends they get, and when they start getting lots of negative feedback it affects them, I would say there are lots more suicides of younger people's now than when I was of that age. Different times.
 It will take your friend,to a lot of dark places, thinking what could they have done to stop it, thoughts with them, it's a tough time.

[Rangie]

Very sad indeed, my wifes cousin commited suicide a few years ago no note left & no real reason ever discovered, on the face of it they had everything a business doing so well that they lived in Jersey & travelled all over the world, but you never know what is going on in someone's mind.

[Field Marshal Dr. Opti]

Apparently nobody suspected anything was wrong.

Parents, husband, friends, work friends,......nobody.

Absolutely nobody saw it coming.

[Lizzie Zoom]

That is extremely sad, but is regretfully happening everyday.

It should remind us all to talk and listen to everyone in our lives as much as possible to understand all our complex human issues.

[Tick Tock]

As decent and understanding as we think we might be, we can't always see if there are any complex human issues affecting those close to us.

My son committed suicide just over 12 years ago and no one saw it coming. He had a good job, nice house and everything to live for, or so we all thought. The years following that were very dark and difficult to cope with for us all. One thing that did come to mind several times was if we could have done anything different to change what happened. Being racked with guilt is a human reaction to losing someone so close.

I share your sympathies, I really do. If it's any consolation, time is a great healer.

[STEMO]

As decent and understanding as we think we might be, we can't always see if there are any complex human issues affecting those close to us.

My son committed suicide just over 12 years ago and no one saw it coming. He had a good job, nice house and everything to live for, or so we all thought. The years following that were very dark and difficult to cope with for us all. One thing that did come to mind several times was if we could have done anything different to change what happened. Being racked with guilt is a human reaction to losing someone so close.

I share your sympathies, I really do. If it's any consolation, time is a great healer.

So sorry to hear that, mate. I'm not sure I'd cope at all.

[Tick Tock]

As decent and understanding as we think we might be, we can't always see if there are any complex human issues affecting those close to us.

My son committed suicide just over 12 years ago and no one saw it coming. He had a good job, nice house and everything to live for, or so we all thought. The years following that were very dark and difficult to cope with for us all. One thing that did come to mind several times was if we could have done anything different to change what happened. Being racked with guilt is a human reaction to losing someone so close.

I share your sympathies, I really do. If it's any consolation, time is a great healer.

So sorry to hear that, mate. I'm not sure I'd cope at all.

Thank you.
Forgot to mention, he was in his early 20s.

[Field Marshal Dr. Opti]

As decent and understanding as we think we might be, we can't always see if there are any complex human issues affecting those close to us.

My son committed suicide just over 12 years ago and no one saw it coming. He had a good job, nice house and everything to live for, or so we all thought. The years following that were very dark and difficult to cope with for us all. One thing that did come to mind several times was if we could have done anything different to change what happened. Being racked with guilt is a human reaction to losing someone so close.

I share your sympathies, I really do. If it's any consolation, time is a great healer.

So sorry to hear that, mate. I'm not sure I'd cope at all.

Thank you.
Forgot to mention, he was in his early 20s.

The most common age for people to take their own life.

[redelitev6]

As decent and understanding as we think we might be, we can't always see if there are any complex human issues affecting those close to us.

My son committed suicide just over 12 years ago and no one saw it coming. He had a good job, nice house and everything to live for, or so we all thought. The years following that were very dark and difficult to cope with for us all. One thing that did come to mind several times was if we could have done anything different to change what happened. Being racked with guilt is a human reaction to losing someone so close.

I share your sympathies, I really do. If it's any consolation, time is a great healer.

Just awful to have to go through this , I often worry about my kids , are they doing ok , how's work , life etc , my son works in an Ambulance call station and hears awful things every day , I just hope it doesn't get him down , on Christmas day he had two suicides to deal with , I don't think I could cope with that   

[Andy B]

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My son committed suicide just over 12 years ago and no one saw it coming. He had a good job, nice house and everything to live for, or so we all thought. The years following that were very dark and difficult to cope with for us all. One thing that did come to mind several times was if we could have done anything different to change what happened. Being racked with guilt is a human reaction to losing someone so close.
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I'm very sorry to hear that. 

[GastronomicKleptomaniac]

I say this a lot, but it's true. If someone has a knee injury, or a broken arm, they'll go "This isn't working as it should. Please don't aggravate it". And people will talk to them, offer assistance, and it's normal. For some reason, when it's someone's brain that's gone on the wonk*, they won't talk about it freely (understandable), but if there's a hint of mental illness**, people shy away from talking to them about it. And it shouldn't be so. I'm a firm believer in sharing your shit***, and there shouldn't be as much of a stigma as there is.

*not to minimise it, at all. I have personal and professional experience of all manner of MH issues up to and including several messy suicides, and if I can offer help to one person to prevent them taking that step, I will gladly do so. I will use language that makes it more casual, because it's usually less scary for the person I'm talking to.
**covering the whole gamut, but particularly depression, self-harm and suicide ideation
***as often promoted by Bullshire Constabulary

[Marks DTM Calib]

Was shocked to hear last night that my neighbour has hung himself.

Wife, two kids, good job, nice house, everything you could want, one of the lower risk people when viewed from the outside.

You just never know

[Field Marshal Dr. Opti]

I say this a lot, but it's true. If someone has a knee injury, or a broken arm, they'll go "This isn't working as it should. Please don't aggravate it". And people will talk to them, offer assistance, and it's normal. For some reason, when it's someone's brain that's gone on the wonk*, they won't talk about it freely (understandable), but if there's a hint of mental illness**, people shy away from talking to them about it. And it shouldn't be so. I'm a firm believer in sharing your shit***, and there shouldn't be as much of a stigma as there is.

*not to minimise it, at all. I have personal and professional experience of all manner of MH issues up to and including several messy suicides, and if I can offer help to one person to prevent them taking that step, I will gladly do so. I will use language that makes it more casual, because it's usually less scary for the person I'm talking to.
**covering the whole gamut, but particularly depression, self-harm and suicide ideation
***as often promoted by Bullshire Constabulary

Good on ya...GK

I'm fortunate in that I'm pretty well balanced and generally  happy and optimistic.......but I'm sure French Albs and STMO will have something to say about the 'well balanced' bit.

We are more reserved in this country but this is changing fast because so many people are willing to speak about their problems. Tyson Fury, Big Frank Bruno, Alastair Campbell among many. Sadly Caroline Flack, who always seemed to be smiling and laughing was deeply unhappy.

In the USA you are nobody unless you can afford an expensive 'shrink'.

Barbra Streisand has already spent more than $400,000 and counting. Most of us are a 'f*uck up' in one way or another.