Anyone who thinks that a person would have a child for the increase of possibly £10 a week in Child benefit and £40 in child tax credits.., does not live in the real world. Children cost much more than that to bring up a week. I have tried to live on benefits and well, lets say there was a lot of baked beans on toast and air for me in our meals. Remember u have to keep a household running as well, provide extra warmth for the little one's too. There is this 'myth' that people regard having children as an income booster.., and I must admit it makes me a little peeved because my heart totally sank when I realised I was pregnant with my second child. Benefits DO NOT permit u to live a life of riley however many children u do or do not have.
As for having children to secure housing. Have the writers ever lived in a small dirty single room (till I cleaned the entire floor containing 5 other units) hostel, waiting for a council place.., to be told I'd be waiting 2 years - if I was lucky. There were people in a same sized room with five children. It wasn't a pleasant experience. And it went on and on and on. U seem to think there is an abundance of social housing available .., there isn't. And having children is not an automatic lift up the list. I was ill, had one child and pregnant with another and still was facing a two year wait.
I know there are a lot of judgements made about people with children.., on benefits.., but I am afraid when u look at the reality of the situation of a single/multi parented family on benefits, it just doesn't bear up. I live in a deprived estate with over 300 families on the estate and I don't know a single family that deliberately has had children to gain a house or benefits. They would all far far rather have some self respect, a job and so on. Without exception. But childcare absence here makes that very difficult.
And as for the wonderful chinese system of 'fining' people who do not have a licence for children (u have to have a licence for even one child).., people still get unwanted pregnancies there and then because there is no way they can pay the fines the babies get sold.., girl babies often into a life of slavery. Not such a wonderful system perhaps. And of course, the one's who suffer most are the children themselves who are the least 'guilty' party.
A lot of points you have made here are valid, and for the majority of people it is fair to say that they share your view,
I used to live in Bristol in the 80's and 90's, i knew a lot of people who came from a background that believed that the social system would support them throughout their 'working' life, however for them 'working' meant living off the social system, in school they were happy to admit that they had zero intention of getting a job and talking to a few friends it would seem a lot of them fulfilled that prophecy
I have seen girls/women get pregnant just for the purpose of gaining social housing, at that point they then realise that the flat they envisaged is in fact a grotty B&B that is full to the rafters with others in the same situation, and so the cycle starts or continues dependant upon that persons asperations/peers/upbringing/ and many other variables.
There is a social group who feel that they have a right to take from the state, this is the group that concern me, the risk of 'breeding childen of the same mindset' then creates more issues and so it snowballs to a point where the social network can't support everyone because there are more people taking that they are giving to the network.
I don't believe that everyone who uses the social system should be tarred with the same brush, given the current financial situation i would imagine that there are more and more people who will be reliant upon it, it could happen to one of us, its how people use that helps and move forward with their lives that makes them and their children different.
I could talk for hours about this as it is a subject close to my heart. The social concept is excellent, its just the freeloaders who have corrupted the system and made other people then feel bad about using it when they have a right to do so