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[bertiecbx550]

I`ve had some bad news this week regarding my parents...My mum has not been well since sept suffering various virus infections and on sunday i had to call for an ambulance to take her to hospital as she was in pain with what we beleived was her arthuritus only to be told that there is a chance its bone cancer after her GP told us that her bloodwork was showing abnormalties and now she would have to go for a isotopic bone scan but she could not authorise it and would have to contact her consultant she was under after having breast cancer to arrange it so they released her and we went home on sunday..yesterday i bought her a single bed so she did not have to climb the stairs as this is painful for her and she was sleeping in a armchair....then to top it all today my dads suffered a stroke with all the stress of struggling to look after her and the house.....i`ve done my best to help as has my brother but my dads a proud man and does not want help i`ve just got back from hospital as he`s being kept in to take over from my brother and look after my mum...I`m just at sixes and sevens at the mo cause i just dont know what else i can do..i mean do i get social services involved? how do i go about getting stuff for them?like camodes or walking aids or even home help? if anybody knows please tell me cause i`m getting upset over this as i never been in this position before.....

[RobG]

Really sorry to hear the bad news about Mum and Dad. Lost my Mum May this year. When my Dad was at home with terminal cancer a few years back we contacted the social services and they took care of everything re; liasing with relevant authorities. Give them a call, explain the situation I`m sure they will do whatever they can to assist. Hope all ends well and all the family have a happy and healthy new year.

[Kevin Wood]

I can't offer much advice, I'm afraid, other than to wish both Mum and Dad a speedy recovery.  

Kevin

[razzo]

Sorry to hear about your family mate but as Rob said contact social services they should be able to offer you all the help you need

[albitz]

Bertie,speak to the staff where your mum is being treated,ask to be put in contact with Macmillan trust,pretty sure they will help/advise on all the issues involved.

[Lizzie_Zoom]

Very sorry to hear your news, and I would add that you should seek advice from your parents GP or your GP on how the situation can be helped by the various authorities, Social Services and the local NHS Trust.

All the very best and my prayers will be with you.

[Mr Skrunts]

Oh matey, my thoughts are with your parents.

Just be there for your Dad he will lean on you when he is ready, it will be when he is ready.

As for social services they will be a Godsend, get the hospital or Doctor to do you an imediate referal, Your Doctor will be able to point you in all sorts of directiones for Help, advice and support.

Keep us posted matey, and be strong.

[waspy]

Hey mate, i think i'm like most people here & we just don't know what to say. The lass over the road from me is in this kinda business & deals with it from day to day, she says what Rob said
My heart goes out to mate, it really does. I hope things get better for you & your parents soon.
Keep your chin up mate, because your mum & dad need you more now than ever.

[Dodger]

Know how you feel mate, had similar last year,  lost mum in spring after long illness, (looked after her & dad) then Dad passed away in October, again after short illness. As oldest child,had all the worry of both to deal with.
Ask to speak to the hospital's social workers. They were marvellous for me, made phone calls to other departments, when mum was in hosp ill & dad couldn't cope.
They got Mum and Dad a dedicated social worker, who helped sort out homecare, and all sorts of little extras like commodes, zimmer frames, wheelchairs, and the 'lifeline' telephone setup.

Can't speak highly enough of them.

Really feel for you at this time, hope that all gets sorted quickly. Having been there myself, I know just how sickening this all can be.

[STMO123]

Really sorry to hear about this Bertie. Would your mum be better off being looked after in hospital for a few days until things get sorted? I know that could prove difficult but I dont see how else the her basic needs could be sorted out so quickly over the holidays. Failing that you need to harass social services until they agree to help, that's their role in all this.

Good luck mate.

[fife_omega_v6]

Berti i lost my mum in october there , sounds pretty much the same she went through chemo , operations and everything for breast cancer since dec last year ,she took a pain in her back thought it was a pulled muscle but was cancer back but it had spread throughout her body she was only 51,so i feel for you mate and please if you need to get summit of your chest just give me a pm always a shoulder here  

[amigov6]

Symathies mate, seems your questions have been answered. My thoughts are with you. Off to Sussex to spend the night @ my parents tomorrow. They're not getting any younger & it plays on my mind to say the least.
   Best wishes, Guy.

[Martin_1962]

Oh dear - sorry I can't do much beyond best wishes

[cem_devecioglu]

Your care and interest will make them happy..Even thats enough for them..I wish them a quick recovery and a healthy life..

[HolyCount]

Sorry to hear the news Matey. Local surgery nurses, hospital occupational therapists and Macmillan nurses were all a Godsend when my mum passed a few years back ( we nursed her at home at her wish). Never be afraid to ask for help -- there is lots out there.