If you planned to collect why pay before collection?
he completely ignored my message asking what payment he'd prefer, and went ahead to relist it, and since i had funds in my paypal i decided to pay to "confirm i'd bought it" if you will
anyway the update, he messaged me to say he sold the alloy elsewhere for £100 and i would be refunded, so i replied "basically you didnt like how cheap it sold for so you lied to me to avoid selling it and relisted it higher like you should have done in the first place, you'll be reported to ebay and get negative feedback as a result"
he ignored me, so i messaged him through the new listing and said "how about since you made £100 on the other wheel i won, why not give me this for what i paid you, and we say no more about it and i leave you positive feedback as if there were no issue?"
he said "how about no, leave me neg feedback and see if i give a f**k"
i have my refund, he has his negative feedback, he has had his listing removed and has been reported to ebay
tragically this is a more common occurrence for many on ebay, luckily for me its a rarity