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[Lazydocker]

I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.

However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night

And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends

[TheBoy]

I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.

However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night

And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends

You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes

[Lazydocker]

I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.

However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night

And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends

You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes

There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again

Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight

[TheBoy]

I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.

However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night

And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends

You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes

There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again

Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight

You are no longer my friend.

[Jimbob]

I just view the internet / forums a 'new' way of making friends.

Certainly made some very good ones on here

[Sixstring]

This is a good question.........
I have met some genuinely lovely people on this forum, that if we lived closer perhaps would become close friends even........but as we speak I probably have 3 good friends in all the world. they live in the far-flung corners of the world, and we only converse via phone and email, but if I called because I was in trouble, ill, or in difficulty, etc, ANY of them would jump on a plane and come to me. This to me defines a REAL friend.

I have been "in the firing line" several times, and had some decent blokes with me, I would cover their back, and they mine, and formed a close cameraderie with them, but when we all left, have never heard or seen them again.  So what IS a real friend?
Very hard to define, but in my opinion, it must be somebody who cares, will listen to you anytime, will help you anytime, and would be sad and upset if anything happened to you.

Either way, if that IS the definition, then I have three good friends and some brilliant acquiaintences, some of which I have met on this forum and would do anything I can for if they ask me.

This of course does not include my partner Zena, whom I love and adore, and consider my soulmate and confidante.

[scimmy_man]

I moved 30 miles from where I grew up, so dont see many old schoolfriends, I keep in touch with a few in the interweb,

I seem to have 2 sets of friends now, car friends from one of the car clubs, or shooting friends,
all my drinking friends are into shooting.

[Debs.]

I have a very small group (2 couples and 2 singletons) whom I am proud to call 'personal-friends' and one couple I know I will be dear-friends with for life.......and then quite a few internet contacts (mainly OOF).

Nobody from my youth/Uni. etc.; `left behind the need for all that, years ago!

[Kevin Wood]

Normal friends, you say?

I'll get back to you on that.

Kevin

[Lazydocker]

I've got a lot of acquaintances and also a lot of friends... There are some people I've met through the internet (mostly here) who I class as friends. Even some people I've never met in person can become friends, depending on the relationship that is built.

However... Real friends, IMHO, are people you can not speak to for months at a time and still ring up/pop in and chew the fat with no concerns about awkwardness. Also people you can count on to go out of their way to help you out of a fix, no matter what time of day or night

And there are people I have met through this forum I would call real friends

You're my friend simply because Mrs LD does lovely cakes

There's a surprise... TB is thinking with his stomach again

Speaking of cakes... Dutch Apple Cake for pudding tonight

You are no longer my friend.

If it makes you feel any better I'll tell you it wasn't very good... But I'd be lying!

[Chris_H]

This is a good question.........
I have met some genuinely lovely people on this forum, that if we lived closer perhaps would become close friends even........but as we speak I probably have 3 good friends in all the world. they live in the far-flung corners of the world, and we only converse via phone and email, but if I called because I was in trouble, ill, or in difficulty, etc, ANY of them would jump on a plane and come to me. This to me defines a REAL friend.

I have been "in the firing line" several times, and had some decent blokes with me, I would cover their back, and they mine, and formed a close cameraderie with them, but when we all left, have never heard or seen them again.  So what IS a real friend?
Very hard to define, but in my opinion, it must be somebody who cares, will listen to you anytime, will help you anytime, and would be sad and upset if anything happened to you.

Either way, if that IS the definition, then I have three good friends and some brilliant acquiaintences, some of which I have met on this forum and would do anything I can for if they ask me.

This of course does not include my partner Zena, whom I love and adore, and consider my soulmate and confidante.

I think that counts for a lot.  The converse probably needs to apply as well, and that may be the clue to identifying friends - who would I go well out of my way to help?

There are a number of new-fangled ways to create relationships and most seem to fall short by some way.  Strangely (and it was mentioned above) eating a meal together may well play a big part in creating good/real friendships.

[Amigo]

Two members have added another angle to this (for me anyway) The two that mentioned thier childhood. I am an only child. I have a step brother & two step sisters but never lived with them. We are in touch but not particularly close. I think i'm the product of being an only child all these years later in that despite having had a few relationships  (two long term) & becoming a father 25 years ago I'm still simply happier on my own. I enjoy coming home to an empty house just so i can do as i please & not worry about her moaning at me for spending too much time on the computer, what i eat or when i eat it etc. I like my weekends to myself, laying in bed, tinkering with the cars, visiting friends, simply doing what i want when & if i want to do it. It's not our house, it's mine. I've never been happy with any of my ex girlfriends doing my washing, putting my socks in the drawer, silly things like that. I've never been 100% comfy with a girl sleeping overnight in my bed, because it's MY bed & I sleep there. I'm not selfish or tight with money neither am i a narcissist, i'll help anyone if i can, i don't go entirely without "Female company" & i love women i'll never go to bed with as friends i'm simply not one half of a couple, i'm just me.
    Regarding true friends, i could probably count those on one hand, however there are potential friends on OOF & my Classic forum that if we lived nearer said friendships might well develop further.

[Martin_1962]

I moved to Worcester about 20 years ago, not made any real friends up here.

Well made one but I married her!

[2woody]

I've found that I've met some really good friends through the web - the web is great for connecting people with similar interests who would never otherwise meet.

I also find that there's a good side-effect. I really enjoy the use of the English language, taking pleasure in selecting the exact word or phrase for the meaning I intend. Whilst this is easy to do when you're typing, pm-ing or through sms, when face-to-face, it takes me a bit longer to select the right phrase (therefore making me appear a bit "dumb")

from radio 4 - what's the correct definition of "towel rail" - where a Yorkshireman keeps his Owls.

[Dishevelled Den]

from radio 4 - what's the correct definition of "towel rail" - where a Yorkshireman keeps his Owls.

I love that. 8-) A fine example of the regional dialect that makes this country so diverse and interesting.

There is a rich depth and sound heritage within the regions, these qualities should be treasured and celebrated for they identify who we really are within this nation.