engine degreaser will actualy clean the diff back to clean metal and make it much easier to see whats goin on
it could be run off from somewhere else. have you tested it compared to the diff oil ie taken out bung?
Not yet, I did see the bung when underneath the car but too scared to take it out!
I tryed some of that Traffic Film Remover on the diff, it took some of the oil off. But some of the incrusted stuff is still on it, i need a presure washer with one of those angeled jets to really clean it up.
Also noticed today its dripping directly off the buttom sump of the diff

How worried should I be? It seams a very slow leak, only noticed it due to my grandparents shinny new drive. - It was parked in the same place for 3 days and got about 3 spots each about the size of a 5p coin.
There are no noises from the diff, or odd sounds. The ride in the back is still very smooth, and no vibration though the seat on accerleration or general driving.