OK Update to this.
-A decent 2nd hand Gear selector switch has been fitted, which was cleaned out before fitting.
-The car ran beautiful for 24hrs, then rubbish again. On inspection It appeared the nylon bush was slightly out, so using a tiny allen key this was aligned, but to no avail. It was only out by a fraction anyway.
-Also the selector lever was tweaked in length, just to make sure all was 'as far back as it will go' when in P.
-The MAF has been unplugged, as has the MAP sensor. Again, this seemed to work, but later in the afternoon the car started running like an asthmatic sloth again.
All my instincts are telling me its still MAF/MAP/Selector switch related, but all the evidence seems to be saying 'replace the gearbox'. I'm really not keen on doing this until all avenues have been fully explored.
Could we have missed anything / done something wrong!!?
This is getting ridiculous now, me and my mate are still defrosting after a whole afternoon wasted. I just get the impression its something ridiculously simple, or that we've done wrong.
Thanks in advance!
