I see this is still causing unrest, for some reason...
As I see it, this is what happened, and how I dealt with it, and the after repercussions.
A lot of this is from (distant) memory, so please forgive recollection omissions etc.
Loo-knee responded to a thread with terribly sorry old boy, I am a little tired, It was unclear as to who this was aimed, I thought the OP (tidla) initially as it was another 'whats up with OOF' thread. I found this highly disrespectful and not the behavior I would expect from a mod. It later transpired it was only aimed purely at Ljay.
Ljay attempted to resolve the issue privately, but was met by similar one word answers to PM's.
She also used the alert mod function, as is anyones right when they are not happy.
Several hours later, I acted on the alert, as noone else had, and issued a 24 hour ban to loo-knee with the ban message explaining which rule I was banning for.
imho he had used his comments purely to stir things up, and to provoke a reaction. It would appear he really didnt like the reaction he got.
The fact Ljay is my wife is irrelevant, I would have acted the same whoever had used the alert mod.
As to the punishment of a 24 hour ban....Many of us have been banned for far longer, and imho for far less, or instance I was banned for several days for merely mentioning I had downloaded a game, and I know many other bans have been issued for things like air freshener mentions etc. For these reasons I think he massively over reacted.
If he hadnt, by his own admission, been deliberately provocative, none of this would have happened. He believes however he has done nothing wrong.
As for me being scott free.....I was banned for over a week, Ljay has been banned permanently for doing nothing wrong. Personally I don't feel that is scott free. I know some feel she had done similar things in the past, that is totally irrelevant, the alert mod has been there for use, and it had been used against her in the past for which she had received warnings. So totally irrelevant to this. Quite what punishment you see fit I am not sure, as this place is hard work and takes hours of our time. To sort each few new maintenance guides takes over an hour for example. Its far easier to not be here than to help of the running of it.
As far as I am concerned, there is nothing more to be said. It is done, History.
Whenever OOF is debated, there is always a current 'gripe of the moment' I believe this is the current one, previous examples being too much politics, too much soft porn, too many jokes etc etc etc.