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[MICHELINMAN]

All the best mate, I know how it feels.

[Jusme]

Please accept my heartfelt condolences for you and yours..

[SJKOO01]

Hi again.

Thanks to those that responded with a thread of consonances’ and to those sharing their own past/present personal grief also.

Silly as it sounds, but knowing that some of you have taken the time to read my long personal thread and responded, also sharing with morale support has given me some strength.
At this difficult time I think had no-one added to the thread I may have felt worse to some degree, so I suppose I was taking a risk of feeling on my own somewhat (if you understand what I mean?).

Like I say, for the short term I may not be popping on here as much, but once I start getting my head around everything better, I should be back to my idiot self.

Once again, thank you for responding and giving me faith back in people out there in the real world, it does make a difference.

An appreciative OOFer 

[mrgreen]

Goose i'm so sorry to hear that, I lost my mother in law a year and a half ago from day to day, i know how you feel all i can say in these dark few weeks/months is it will get better and hang in theretime does heal even though thiose words are cold comfort, don't let depression sit on you need to get on (as opposed to move on) getting on will take you inch at a time away from the pain and let you move on realising that it was better to have him in your life and have the pain of losing him than not, i know words are only words at a time like this but i really feel for you, my heartfelt condolences,
Rich

[Vamps]

So sorry to hear of your loss. The Vamps household send our condolences to you and your family....

We, sadly, lost swmbo's father just a few weeks ago having finally lost his battle with Cancer so have a good understanding of the process, and the 'sorting out of things'.......

[sotmh]

I would like to ditto what everyone has said so far but to add these few words and to also to say sorry to hear of your of loss .  When I first read this it was obvious you was in pain and reaching out and I think it  might have taken an effort to share your feelings for a tragic loss, especially to those not known. :-/ :-/

I have not been in that situation but had an experience which was totally unexpected which I can only say, felt like suffering a blow over the head with a blunt object, you are disorientated can't take your surroundings in.  I don't know how I would handle the loss of my mother as it is only us, and  I have thought about this especially when attending others bereavement ceremony.

Been so close made things that much harder for you especially as you were considering him foremost even when you were ill.  Forgive me if it appears like lecturing, I do not mean to do so.

As to sharing, it is written it is good for us to take each others burden.

Everyone has coping mechanisms i.e throwing themselves into work, hobbies etc.  Someone said time eases wounds.  I would like to think that loved ones may be there watching and encouraging us.  In addition, I do not know if you are a person of faith but it may be worth praying about this situation.  When I refer to praying it is more like having a conversation with your step father and it may possibly help to think of him.

One thing I'm really happy about is that he did not  suffer in his last moments.
Just a final thought, it may sometimes be easier to speak to those not directly involved as you have virtual friends here.

[Sir Tigger KC]

A sad story GooseMan and you have my deepest sympathies having been in a similar situation myself a few years ago..

There's a big hole in your life right now and whilst you will never forget your Stepfather, the hole will get smaller with time.....

Be strong my friend 

[Seth]

It's taken a degree of courage to share your feelings publicly on here, so feel contentment at doing so mate.

I certainly understand your emotional turmoil at this sad time, though believe me, time will indeed prove to be a great healer.

Last year I lost my mother to dementia, and my great friend and confidante Bill (who was over 30 years my senior and treated me like a son), and I now look to the future as they'd have wanted me to do so. Several members have modestly benefitted from the latter's estate, and I now feel great contentment that his wishes have been executed as I promised him. He was indeed a gentle and most generous man, who greatly influenced this scribe, and I miss him sorely.

Keep your chin up Goose, and things will gradually work out for you.

Please accept our sincerest 'Valleys' condolences for your sad loss from everyone in the 'Sethsmates household'.

[hercules]

its good to know you feel you can open up on a public forum involving people you now class as friends in such who will return bestest wishes and share some of your pain,if i had a problem i would post on here...a problem shared and all that.wishing you all well in this hard timeand i can only believe what others say and hope its true that time will make it easier

[PhilRich]

Sincere Condolences Gooseman 

[Shackeng]

Having just received news of a close friends departure, you have my deepest sympathies. Please keep posting, as you know that your virtual friends will be thinking of you Gooseman.

Sincere condolences.

Chris

[SP_3.2]

Very sorry to hear that, . my Condolences to you and the family

[shaggydog]

In the same boat mate my younger sister 50 has been battling it for 8years, told in Dec nothing else they can do so just waiting for the time, matter of weeks now,it's amazing how much it messes with your head.

[Omega_Dan]

Very Very sad news. Passing away peacefully leaves you some comfort. So Sorry for your loss. Sincere condolences to yourself and your family.



Dan

[Rich-K]

So Sad.  Condolences to you and your family. RIP