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[Kevin Wood]

So what will you do when that time comes, childcare or stay at home mum?

Personally I consider myself lucky that, when I was growing up in the 70's, my parents were in a position where my Mum could give up her career, my parents were willing to give up "keeping up with the jones'" and I was looked after by my Mum. I think that's the ideal situation and I couldn't have wished for a better upbringing.

People want it all these days, though Kids, career, 2 brand new cars on the driveway, etc.... We have friends where one partner is working solely to keep the kid(s) in childcare. Seems like madness to me. Holding on to a career at the expense of your kids seeing their parents for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. :-/

We haven't really been prepared to make either compromise so maybe the time won't come.

Kevin

[Martin_1962]

So what will you do when that time comes, childcare or stay at home mum?

Personally I consider myself lucky that, when I was growing up in the 70's, my parents were in a position where my Mum could give up her career, my parents were willing to give up "keeping up with the jones'" and I was looked after by my Mum. I think that's the ideal situation and I couldn't have wished for a better upbringing.

People want it all these days, though Kids, career, 2 brand new cars on the driveway, etc.... We have friends where one partner is working solely to keep the kid(s) in childcare. Seems like madness to me. Holding on to a career at the expense of your kids seeing their parents for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. :-/

We haven't really been prepared to make either compromise so maybe the time won't come.

Kevin

You haven't been married that long so your wifes body hasn't started the broody stage, but it would be a pity if you denied a child the fun of learning about electronics or working on a car.

As to working and childcare - no point working unless you make a profit over staying at home. BUT it will make it easy to stay in the job market place as Sue is now finding out

[albitz]

So what will you do when that time comes, childcare or stay at home mum?

Personally I consider myself lucky that, when I was growing up in the 70's, my parents were in a position where my Mum could give up her career, my parents were willing to give up "keeping up with the jones'" and I was looked after by my Mum. I think that's the ideal situation and I couldn't have wished for a better upbringing.

People want it all these days, though Kids, career, 2 brand new cars on the driveway, etc.... We have friends where one partner is working solely to keep the kid(s) in childcare. Seems like madness to me. Holding on to a career at the expense of your kids seeing their parents for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. :-/

We haven't really been prepared to make either compromise so maybe the time won't come.

Kevin

Therein lies the root of so many problems.I will probably get shot for saying so, but when mums traditionally stayed at home and provided childcare as nature intended,there were far fewer youth related problems than we have nowadays.

[Richie London]

some very interesting posts on here.  

[HolyCount]

So what will you do when that time comes, childcare or stay at home mum?

Personally I consider myself lucky that, when I was growing up in the 70's, my parents were in a position where my Mum could give up her career, my parents were willing to give up "keeping up with the jones'" and I was looked after by my Mum. I think that's the ideal situation and I couldn't have wished for a better upbringing.

People want it all these days, though Kids, career, 2 brand new cars on the driveway, etc.... We have friends where one partner is working solely to keep the kid(s) in childcare. Seems like madness to me. Holding on to a career at the expense of your kids seeing their parents for an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening. :-/

We haven't really been prepared to make either compromise so maybe the time won't come.

Kevin

Therein lies the root of so many problems.I will probably get shot for saying so, but when mums traditionally stayed at home and provided childcare as nature intended,there were far fewer youth related problems than we have nowadays.[/quote]

Although very non-PC, probably very true.  Whilst I do think that mums should be able to work if they so wish, I also believe that many mums work because they have to. For some strange reason society has stopped believing that rearing a happy, healthy family is a job in it's own right and, as we are seeing, of vital importance to society as a whole. Some women feel that being a good mother is unfulfilling --- I am not a mum, so am unable to comment.